I mean… I come from the forum scene and they were always called PMs, as in Private Message. What in the hell does DM stand for and when did things change from people calling them PMs to DMs.
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Twitter used Direct Message instead of Private Message because they needed to establish that there is legally no understanding of privacy for DMs, because Twitter will surrender the contents of DMs to law enforcement / government / data collection. Fediverse should also use DM because there is again no guarantee of privacy (and you do not expect there to be).
As if admins of the older forum softwares couldn’t just query the database for anyone’s private messages.
Didn’t they also switch the wording from “data protection” to “data usage”?
Still, the conversation is private, as in not public. Even if it is surrendered to the authorities, the’ll probably never be released publicly (unless leaked).
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I think I was clear, private as in not public. As in it’s not public domain.
“Public domain” is a copyright term which isn’t really relevant here. The point the other user is trying to make is that, legally speaking, calling something “private” when it very well may be not private is at best disingenuous and at worst a lawsuit waiting to happen.
You don’t understand what he is saying.
When I speak in front of an audience, I’m speaking publicly. When I take someone into a private room, I’m speaking privately. Whether or not that room is wiretapped doesn’t change the verbiage.
And it doesn’t change the fact that only you, the other person and the wiretapper know about that conversation ever happening… well also whoever they might have shared that with as well, but that’s still not public as in someone reading this comment. Everyone can read and confirm that this is what I wrote.
I agree partly with you but…
If the wiretapper releases that conversation and it appears on every TV in the World then it is public and the first thing you are going to say is “but that was a private conversation in a private room and was not meant to be public”. There is expectation of privacy. There is none in a DM. It is a direct message/contact between you, other person and potentially 99999 auditors, and the rest of the world. This is by design, not an exceptional situation.
Yeah, I know, I was just trying to clarify and couldn’t think of another term 🤷.
The truth is, if you share something online, whether it be in a PM or publicly, it can never ever be considered private. However, a PM’s content is harder to get to than reading this comment for example, that was my point.
No you were clear. You are just incorrect. Your “private messages” can be accessed by anyone who works at the site, and are typically scanned for analysis and that data about what you discuss is sold to market researchers.
So they named them direct messages so they couldn’t be accused of false advertisement.
Just because they’re not “public” doesn’t mean they’re “private”.
That is clear… well, at least regarding corporate social media. Admins in the fediverse can read PMs, but why would they, they have no insentive to do that. Hell, I’m still an admin of a forum and I can read all PMs but I have no incentive to do so, I couldn’t care less what people talk about in private.
Still, that doesn’t mean that the content of the conversation is of any interest of the company. The monetization of the converstaion, yes, but the actual converstaion, no.
I agree kind of. You say something in private, it can still be blabbed about town. It’s a violation of whatever relationship you had but is what it is. You dm someone same deal, but companies want to distance themselves from any avenue of attack, so dm is better. Also we 100% should count on instances to fold to legal pressure, they are people running it and probably don’t have big bank rolls.
That’s why I prefer pirate/NSFW instances. This account isn’t on that kind of instance, but my other accounts are. Pirate instances are preffered, since not many defederate from them because they’re not NSFW. They tend to pick their server’s locations very carefully, usually in countries that just don’t give AF about western law and policy (they call it “offshore hosting”, but in reality, they’re countries like Russia or China), so it’s really really hard to actually pressure them and even harder to get to the data. And even if they succseed, it’ll be after years, at which point, the trace will be cold and probably not worth persuing anyway.
This is one of the methods tycoons use to launder money, by doing bank transfers to banks in countries that don’t care about western policies and laws. And by doing a few back and forths, you’re essentially delaying the whole thing. Hell, some of these guys died waiting to be put on trial, lol 😂.
I think we’ll need to distinguish between deep web and encrypted, deep web but unencrypted, and clearnet.
While deep but unencrypted is not apparent to the unobservant, it is in no way private, as everyone who deigns to look will see it.
Kinda like talking while walking on a busy street, most people will be busy or not pay attention, but nothing much is hindering others from listening in if they really want. Using that analogy, clearnet would be more like a forum or conference, or perhaps a party or meet’n’greet.
If you want to actually be private, you’ll need to at least be encrypted (pure https won’t do, unless it’s between two peers only).
You thought you were clear, but they’re saying companies didn’t believe it was clear.
I suppose it’s a slightly more accurate term. The messages here are not truly private since they are not encrypted, but since they are sent directly no one should read them in the normal course of using the platform. Calling them private might imply to people that other people cannot read them, rather than the reality that it is just very unlikely anyone will. I would also argue that if something is released to an authority it is not “private” even if it is not publicly available.
Honestly, it doesn’t really matter which you use. People will generally understand either way, so you can go ahead and keep saying PM and others will say DM and we can all just understand that they mean the same thing.
I ran into a person the other day, I wrote “I’ll PM you” and he replied “What is PM 🤨” 🤷. They may be young or just a late internet adopter, but still, that was just a sign for me that I should probably adopt the new DM lingo, as some people just don’t understand what I’m talking about.
Fediverse should also use DM because there is again no guarantee of privacy (and you do not expect there to be).
Matrix is the fediverse’s messaging platform. It has end-to-end encryption, so you do actually have a guarantee of privacy.
There are DMs on lemmy and they are not using Matrix. Matrix’s security doesn’t matter if you are not actually using Matrix
Why would lemmy not have E2EE for person to person messages?
It’s quite a lot of work to implement. Maybe one day. Same problem on Mastodon
why bother? if you need actual private messaging, you can just use matrix
Privacy is improved when it is there by default
Yes, but when you click the DM button on lemmy.world there’s a big red warning telling you to use matrix (element.io) instead.
Matrix is not part of the Fediverse
I think Twitter might have been the first time I saw DM used but it stands for direct message.
Twitter is where it started.
And every ‘hip’ person started talking about sliding into someone’s DM and it became the default application.
PM is still used in professional settings sometimes.
I somehow managed to read “default” as “segfault.”
… I may have spent too much time debugging annoying shit today
DM is direct message and seems to have started around the same time things culturally shifted away from forums and boards more toward social media.
And now people don’t even understand me, like I wrote “I’ll PM you” and they said “What 🤨” 🤦.
Guess I’ll have to shift from using PM to DM… though it seems completely illogical to me, but hey, that’s life I guess.
“I’ll Prime Minister you”
“I’ll prime meridian you”
“I’ll post mortem you”
“I’ll prima dona you”
“I’ll Pringle Mingle you”
Gonna steal “pringle mingle”, sounds like a great insult lol
“I’ll dungeon master you”
“I’ll deathmatch you”
That last one was probably used at some point in time though…
I somehow never realized it was a shift from forums. I’ve used both terms interchangeably with a bias towards DM. TIL
Same, but prefer PM. We both know what we mean :p
Yup, and that’s what matters
I’ll be you Dungeon Master any day ~~<3
Playing Tuesdays and Thursdays, bring a barbarian or fighter.
when did things change from people calling them PMs to DMs.
I don’t think I’ve ever heard it called a “Pungeon Master”
You, are a pun-geon master.
PM means private message. Nothing on Facebook or Twitter ever suggested that personal messages were private, so they used direct message instead to make sure there was no legal confusion.
I assume it’s direct message. I also come from the forum scene and grew up with PMs. The cynic in me says maybe the big social media companies are shy of using the “private” word when their business model revolves around exploiting user data. Alternatively it’s just language evolving over time.
“Direct Message” , from Twitter.
DM stands for Dungeon Master, the person who makes up the story in the game Dungeons and Dragons
More like Dork Moron! Now give me your lunch money.
DM means Dungeon Master to me, so I go with PM, if I don’t just say message.
I say “text” even though I almost never mean SMS
I prefer the terms DM, especially if the messaging system doesn’t rely on E2EE. If the server admins can read it, then it’s not private.
Well, yes that is true, but still, it’s not public either.
I might have to change my lingo to using DM instead of PM cuz some people don’t actually know what I’m talking about.
Because of the phrase ‘slide into the DMs’. I tried to ‘slide into the PM’ but the Prime Minister wasn’t having any of that
Now it’s just the Dungeon Master of your local D&D group and apparently they were okay with it.
I rolled a 20, I don’t make the rules!
Direct Message.
I’ve only really seen “DM” used this way with Twitter, so I have to assume that’s what Twitter calls private messages.
Dude, everyone calls them DMs, on FB, here, Reddit… in fact, I’ve never seen anyone call them PMs, except for me.
Direct message became ubiquitous in the wake of “slide into your DM’s” as a phrase.
At least in my experience.
DM/PM/IM all mean the same thing
Direct message, I think it mainly comes from twitter where you could add a “d” before someone’s @ to message them, maybe the use of “direct” instead of “private” was to avoir the confusion with private accounts?
It’s what some people call a /whisper
Or /msg
i always preferred to /query
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Yeah of pst
