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        Is it transphobic for a doctor to ask a trans man if he might be pregnant, or no?

        no

        if they are, at the time, able to be pregnant, it makes sense

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            why not mention what your preferred terminology is so that people who actually care about being affirming can use the correct term?

            Oh, if you actually care about being affirming, the correct term is gender. What you say to your doctor is private. Gender is the public facing bit. It’s the relevant bit for which toilets you or I go in, which is what we’re discussing.

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                    I didn’t leave a top-level comment. I replied to someone who made an excessively broad statement lacking any nuance. They didn’t say “it’s being used as a transphobic dogwhistle in this context,” they suggested that it can only be used as a transphobic dogwhistle

                    No, they didn’t, they just said (and to repeat, they said it in the context of this guidance about access to gendered spaces) “it’s a transphobic dog whistle”, which is absolutely what it is in this context, and you strawmanned that up to “it’s always transphobic dog whistle in every context, even if you omit the unnecessary oversimplifying adjective ‘biological’” and made the argument about that.

                    very legitimate point that I made that doctor’s need to know

                    Correction, very irrelevant point in this context.

                    If you aren’t transphobic and you aren’t autistic, I would expect you to adjust how you speak in this kind of context

                    Great, so you’re assuming I’m not autistic. Neurotypical defaultism is ableist.

                    No, there’s an if at the start of that sentence and an and partway in.

                    and the fact that you can’t seem to understand why it happened is the same reason they wanted to do it.

                    Oh, I can understand why it happened. It’s because someone was being petty and trigger-happy without caring to stop and think critically for a moment. I didn’t say I don’t understand how this could happen. I just called it petty.

                    I think it’s rational to ban someone who refuses to accept that their lengthy sealioning is unwelcome from a comm designed to be free of exactly that kind of sealioning.

                    You act like you’re unable to understand why those comments were unwelcome. If you do understand why they’re unwelcome, stop. If you don’t understand why they’re unwelcome, don’t claim to understand.

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                    It would explain an emphasis on definitions and a deemphasis from the social consequences of debating the definitions in a particular social context.

                    The person I was talking to admitted that it can be hard to tell the difference between transphobia and an only accidentally offensive post. I was providing a rationale for how the latter could have occurred.