Mine has always been those who can’t make up their mind whether they want to bother with you or not. Like I have someone who, what felt like was pulling teeth almost, to confess whether they were interested in me or not. The best they could say was “I didn’t say I am but I also didn’t say I’m not either”. Like what the hell kind of response is that?

With things like that, I am a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ type of person. Don’t be dicking with my feelings like that. In fact, I would want to hear ‘no’ by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.

Another peeve is lack of building. I’m huge on building. Pry into my world and I’ll pry into yours, lets learn eachother as much as we can. We can’t learn anything if the conversation is always short-strung by one-wording eachother to death.

  • sparkles@piefed.zipEnglish
    5·
    4 hours ago

    So for me when I was dating it was that people were never interested in me as a person, for a variety of reasons.

    So for example a lot of people my age have children and look for a mother figure. Or think mothers themselves are not for serious companionship.

    Or looking for what I provide as a service (free therapy).

    Or it’s a money thing.

    Eventually it went from annoying to exhausting. Well, it was not adding anything to my life so why bother?

  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
    4·
    5 hours ago

    basically how gender-war most dating has become.

    before social media i never really dealt with women or dated women who were did the whole ‘you are a man, i am a woman’ bullshit. but now it’s like all i ever deal with and since i am not willing to basically pay women to date me I don’t really date anymore, since every woman in my city i meet has decided she has a price tag to date her and any man that isn’t spending $1000s on her ‘doesn’t value her’, and they all expect you to be a millionaire. seriously, my last dozen short term relationships all ended because the woman basically said ‘pay up if you want to keep seeing me’ and I said no thanks.

    it’s so transactional, it’s gross. i won’t even go into the ’ a real man must make all the decisions in the relationship’ nonsense, that also seems to be having a HUGE uptick this decade. i’m not interested in dating a toddler in an adult body and being a daddy, thanks.

    i never dealt with any of this in the 2000s or 2010s. women wanted to be your partner and pay their own way.

  • Maeve@kbin.earth
    121·
    21 hours ago

    If you have to ask, that’s your answer. People prioritize and make time for whatever is important to them. It sounds like you were something to do if there was nothing better to do.

  • azimir@lemmy.ml
    11·
    22 hours ago

    People not knowing when to use ‘is’ and ‘are’ in English.

    For reals, though? Mostly energy put into conversations, who spends the effort to initiate topics, and whether someone actually has hobbies other than just watching TV.

  • wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    14·
    24 hours ago

    I would want to hear ‘no’ by this point because that would give me the release to pursue others.

    If they haven’t locked you down, you owe them nothing. Be direct.

    If they were worth waiting for, they would give you a straight answer.

    “I’m interested in you, but you’ve been lukewarm about this whole thing. Whenever you make up your mind, you know where to find me, but I can’t spend my life waiting for you to make a move.”