My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
    11·
    4 days ago

    Unless you are their mother and refuse to talk to them, that’s not up to you.

    And if you are, or if she has the same plan, then OP would probably be better off without.

    • UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      33·
      4 days ago

      Yes, cause letting your child not only live with a cheater but the young ASSISTANT he fucked while still going through with your divorce is such a good move.

      The dad obviously doesn’t make good choices. He’s only thinking about himself. And the child already thinks theyre the greatest.

      Im not saying parents should never talk to their kids. But thats what’s going to happen if OP stays in the house with is dad and his YOUNG ASSISTANT THAT MOVED IN BEFORE THE DIVORCE SHE CAUSED IS EVEN FINAL

      • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
        11·
        4 days ago

        Let me be perfectly clear.

        THIS IS NOT THE KID’S PROBLEM.

        Forcing them to take sides has ONLY NEGATIVE EFFECTS ON THE CHILD.

        I know you REALLY feel for Mom, and want justice for her, and I don’t disagree with that, and I’m not defending Dad’s actions, but you need to be saying these things to Mom, or her peers (siblings, friends, HER parents)

        You are trying to convince OP to weaponize themselves against their parent in order to enforce justice on someone that you don’t like and have never met.

        Please stop.

        • UrPartnerInCrime@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
          21·
          4 days ago

          I’m only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.

          Otherwise, I’d say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn’t have their back in that situation must be upsetting.

          • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world
            2·
            4 days ago

            That’s pretty ironic considering she did what op’s dad did.

            Edit: I just read the extra details that OP shared. Wow. You were way off, huh? 😂