besides all that, she has an odd sense of humor but is really nice. not only this, but has been my friend since middle school, and i dated her in sixth grade. she has always been christian, but she’s practicing it more and feels like she has to “repent for her sins” and whatever.
she used to be a lesbian and then genderfluid but now she’s cishet and idk if she’ll understand what i’m going through, i also hope she didn’t decide this due to christianity.
and the gender identity and pronouns jokes feel weird to me as an enby and a lesbian 😓
will this end up actually bad for me like those superevangelicals?
Yes, you’re going to run inti some serious heartache. Either now or later. She sounds like she still doesn’t know who she is if she’s flitting about like that. But the problem is that she’s now being influenced by hateful people. You can try correcting her, telling her not to make those jokes or that those jokes are mean and rude. Point out that those jokes are about people in similar positions to yourself. Maybe even saying “Jesus wouldn’t say that.” or something similar. But if she responds poorly, I’d personally rather be alone than around someone with ideology dangerous to my existence. She’s not nice, she’s insensitive, and being influenced by mean spirited people that may or may not be the type to join on a public lynching.