this is a continuation to my post ‘where do you draw the line if you ponder quitting a job?’
manager is now ‘helping’ me find a position elsewhere, but I believe she dislikes me so much she wants me gone asap. Her friends have turned to silent treatment mode. Each day, she asks me if I’ve interviewed already. It’s like she wants me to have a new job lined up before Christmas already.
it’s starting to sink in that she doesn’t want me, but I’m not so sure I want to quit:
I know it doesn’t make any sense. As said, I dislike 30% of my coworkers and if I’ve already told management with my union representative present that as soon as I find something else I quit, I should be consequent and do that. I dislike getting up at 4:30 to get to work at 06:00, yet this is the kind of life I know, the routines I’ve grown to be used to, this gives me a feeling of security, even though I come here so often to rant and complain about my job and my coworkers.
Can you believe I’m thinking about politely asking this manager if we can work things out? I must really be bipolar.
I don’t understand why I’m so incoherent. I’m the drama queen now.
I feel like a child who postured and lost.
Every crisis is an opportunity, people say, but even though I should think like this and boldly leave, I’m scared that my new position will be as bad or worse than the old one, the same drama, the same backstabbing and playing favorites. It would be really tiring to get out of the frying pan to get into the fire.
As with any job, there will be some things that are better than your current one and some things that are worse. It seems like you already opened up the “quitting” can of worms at your current job. Reversing course is not impossible, but it is atypical. I would probably follow through with quitting based on what you said about your manager’s attitude, and it also seems like you don’t really like the job.
Apply to a bunch of places, do a bunch of interviews and get some offers. If you don’t like your next job you can always leave that one. I would encourage you to try to treat people right at each job. You do not want to leave a giant wake of burned bridges. Eventually, people you work with at job A will show up at job B, and if you’ve been an asshole, no one is going to want to work with you. Conversely, if you are pleasant to work with, people will even recommend you for a new job.
Look up friend, change is scary and it’s OK to be nervous. Put in some work to find a new job, re-examine your life. If it feels better, stay, if not, quit. There are new jobs all the time, and if your work is valuable in any way and you have a good attitude, you’ll never have trouble finding work.