In a past life, a super transphobic coworker asked me out a few times. He’d often go on rants about how women’s spaces must be protected and whatnot. He never realized I was trans.

It’s moments like that where I wish I could just tell him “hey I’m trans and you need to learn that we’re not sexual predators like Fox News likes to claim”, but staying quiet is an issue of personal safety. Trans visibility is a double edged sword that must be wielded delicately.