My first language is Spanish, and I also speak French. Both are gendered heavily. I hate gendered languages but it is what it is. You can call a car “une voiture” (f) or “un char” (m). Hell, you can call a thing “une chose” (f) or “un truc” (m). I do love language studies though and find them fascinating

Unironically, good chat.

It’s not as simple as that, at least for humans.

Firstly, you’re not generally going around looking at people’s genitals, and even if you were you wouldn’t be able to tell if someone’s had surgery. A lot of trans folk pass well enough that you wouldn’t be able to tell we were trans unless we told you, at which point you look crazy insisting that a guy with a full beard and pecs is a woman.

Secondly, while sex and gender are separate, the distinction is often brought up without nuance. Sex is not a simple concept, and it’s impossible to define generally in a way that doesn’t misrepresent some class of cis folk. A trans woman has neither the hormonal levels, body fat distribution, strength, brain mapping, medical risks, nor (necessarily) sexual function of a cis man. Defining it fully by some metric such as chromosomes or the ability to reproduce erases all sorts of human experiences, like intersexuality or menopause.

We assign pets genders because of our human experience, but they almost certainly lack the concept. A dog doesn’t care what you call it. Hell, a dog rarely cares what it’s fucking.

Thanks for asking! Getting misgendered is different for everyone and heavily influenced by factors like age, weight, how far into transition someone is, how much they pass, etc. I’ve been trans for a long time I’m in a pretty comfortable place, but I still get misgendered on occasion.

How “bad” it is mainly depends on whether there is malice behind the misgendering. An honest mistake is excusable (until it becomes a pattern), an asshole is not. In fact, I unintentionally get misgendered the most by allies (ironically) but it’s never out of malice. I’d say overall it’s similar to your example of misnaming someone, especially since the two often go hand in hand. If it happens once or twice it’s not an issue, but if someone purposefully calls you by a different name (presumably one of the opposite gender) then there’s a problem. In some states your name and gender are protected, in other states it’s legally mandated to be a complete and utter asshole.

Regarding my original comment, it’s mainly frustration at the hypocrisy some people have who make every excuse to avoid using someone’s preferred name or pronouns, but then have no problem switching when it’s someone else’s pet.

There’s also this meme:

While I have you here: this is tough to hear but please believe us when we say the US is trying to genocide us. The Lemkin Institute for Genocide Prevention has already issued its third warning , but getting people to pay attention has been a huge struggle for us. We’re literally just regular people trying to live regular lives.

If you were given a choice between jerking yourself off and getting a no-strings-attached blowie, what would you choose?

You’re asking the wrong person lmfao

It’s more obvious with some breeds than others. Female shibas tend to be slightly smaller and slimmer, for instance. But it’s rarely obvious unless a dog turns its butt to you. That said, people have never struggled to switch pronouns with a dog. It generally goes like this:

“Oh he’s so cute!”

“Thanks, she’s x years old”

“Oh she’s a girl? She’s lovely, can I pet her”

(As a trans person, I have more to say on how easily people pronoun switch for animals but that’s a different topic for another time)

Dogs can and do scratch themselves when they’re itchy. They don’t need a human for that.

I definitely haven’t had the same experience. Anything I get that is pleather ends up breaking down sooner rather than later (especially thrifted pleather). Hell, my favorite pair of pleather pants recently lost a dish sized area by the crotch, and those were bought new from a brand I trust. Virtually every pair of pleather boots has ended up in the trash, and I currently have a long pleather skirt that basically ripped from floor to waist that I’m still deciding whether to fix or not.

I will add the disclaimer that I’m an experienced leatherworker which affects my bias

I rarely get real leather new, and when it fails it’s rarely the actual leather. I have a jacket I thrifted about a decade ago that is still going strong, though I’ve had to replace the buttons a few times. My most recent leather boots survived multiple camping trips and heavy use, until the plastic zipper broke. Even my leatherwork mainly uses repurposed scraps. At this point my partner and I refuse to buy/use a daily purse that is anything but leather because of how long it lasts. It’s worth repairing leather, it’s not worth repairing pleather.

Assister in French means to attend in English

And it’s fucking terrible compared to real leather. It’ll start flaking or cracking after a year, it’s fucking dangerous around fire, it offers no fucking insulation or protection, it’s shit.

A problem in the fire performer community is that novices will grab it thinking it’s the same as real leather, or because they oppose real leather, and we always have to pull them aside and give em a stern talk about how dangerous it is

Because the car and air industries are so powerful they can effectively pay to suppress all other forms of transportation

Very frequently, across two countries even

There’s also dry herb vapes, which while not innocent by any means, are likely better than anything with ejuice

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Next?

There’s a few more countries than Mexico and Spain

Also, Spain’s accent is very identifiable.

“And if you don’t agree you hate Jewish people” - Israel

As someone who grew up bilingual in the US and now knows 3 languages, the US is fucking allergic to secondary languages. It’s the xenophobia

Money laundering, it’s really good for that

The Russians or the Republicans?

At minimum a constitution rewrite led by actual adults