Look, I get what you’re saying. This new trend of patholgizing everything annoys me too. It’s one of the reasons I generally deny “neruodivergence”, as I said.

But no, the way I’ve experienced emotions is not typical of most people. I struggled intensely during my childhood and in periods of my adulthood because of it. I nearly lost my job last year because of how powerful these emotions are. My friend almost had me committed to a hospital at one point. That is not typical. It is among the human variation, sure, but it is absolutely not common.

It took me actually seeing and recognizing that I am a little bit different than people and it does make me struggle harder than others in order to accept myself and work within my nature instead of against it. I can work with it instead of just trying to clam up and behave like society has always wanted me to.

I had a hell of a lot of therapy since then and I am in a much better place in life than I have ever been before. I also take a medication that I’m not if it is really doing much or not, but I’m afraid to stop taking it just yet.

There is some credence to recognizing that some people may struggle more in life in X way, and others may struggle more in life in Y way.

It’s not in the name of patholgizing for the sake of patholgizing. It’s instead for, as I see it, two reasons:

1. Understanding what your roadblocks are and that they may differ from others. When you have a roadblock that someone else doesn’t, obviously you then need to find a technique to handle said roadblock.

2. Compassion and understanding for those who struggle with things that you don’t. You may not be aware how significantly and deeply you are affecting someone simply because you do not even know their struggle exists.

I hope that makes sense.

Sometimes I feel as though I am a bit “neruodivergent” in that I am much more sensitive than others in a very significant and rather painful way…yet I do not have anything remotely like ADHD or autism, so I don’t call myself it.

No, I do not at all meet the criteria of HSP either. My sensitivity is specific to interpersonal relationships, but does NOT involve the five senses.

Why do you find it lovely? I get that you said the night is quite peaceful but then the problem is that you’re sleep deprived the next day.

I never enjoyed that part. How do you deal

Personally I started taking a psych med earlier this year that some people sometimes are prescribed it for non-psych reasons as a sleep aid. So I never have those issues anymore lol!!

Lol I like how you responded to this a year later. I don’t remember the pain being significantly different.

I don’t think this is a thing that can be solved with breathing exercises. His heart and lungs are struggling to keep up with his excess weight. Weight lifting doesn’t really help with cardiac fitness. It’s good that he wants to strength train, but it’s unlikely to help his breathing.

He needs several things:

1. Dieting will help decrease the strain on his heart and lungs as his body mass decreased
2. He needs to specifically train cardio. Not running, obviously, but more walks. But you don’t want him to overexert himself. Instead of taking long walks, he needs to work on walking for short periods more often and not forgetting to take breaks.
3. Being checked out by a doc is really important in case he has a heart issue like congestive heart failure from the stress he has put on his body.

I am very glad he is trying to better himself and wish him the best of luck.

X Æ A12

Hey! My son is also named Bort!

Weird as fuck how heavily this gets downvoted.

Yes, it does matter in a medical context. Anyone who thinks otherwise is fucking ridiculous and not understanding the nature of reality.

I agree that it doesn’t matter in too many other places. But pretending it doesn’t matter in a medical context is quite frankly ridiculous.

It’s important for people with breast tissue to get screened for breast cancer.

It’s important for people with prostates to get screened for prostate cancer.

People who bleed each month often have lower hemoglobin levels that are not as immediately alarming as in people who don’t bleed every month.

It’s not rocket science. Enjoy not being treated for potentially deadly issues because you think biological sex is irrelevant to medical issues.

Look…express yourself however best suits you. I absolutely advocate people expressing themselves in whatever manner of gender that is truly them. But biology is incredibly important in a medical context.

This is maybe tmi, but female bodies produce secretions down there even while not on their period. It’s called cervical mucous and is most notable once a month (a week or two after your period ends), but can sometimes occur at other times. I understand that you are male. But as someone with female parts, I just wonder if it would be embarrassing standing up and there is a stain on the sheets on the couch.

Holy fucking hell!! That looks terrifying! Glad you went to the doc! What do you think the infection was from??? Did you cut your foot somewhere?

I just went to the doc for some weird clusters of blisters scattered across my right leg/foot, some of which had been painful. The urgent care said they looked like bug bites but they were taking forever to go away. My mom is a nurse and she said it looks like shingles. I’m traveling so it’s hard to go to a doc a this point. It’s been over a week and at least it doesn’t feel worse so I think I’m past the point of antivirals doing anything. Annoying this.

I’ve never had a dentist or hygienist recommended any specific type of toothbrush to me outside of electric toothbrushes. The big thing they seem to care about is flossing.

How is your toothbrush damaging? You don’t need to press as hard as you can!!

Hell…sitting just on the ground I’d even understand. It sounds spontaneous enough. But bringing out a fucking chair is just deliberate and fucking bizarre behavior.

It’s not a common scenario nowadays, but I have a coworker with 4 incredibly young children all only a year or two apart in age. A bit harder to wrangle that many children who are that young.

What in the fresh hell???

I only knew of this man. Never stumbled upon his content. It is just sad that so many people share these views because what the actual fuck.

Did I just subscribe to anus facts?

I’m sorry to hear that this is happening to you, OP. You can be a nice person without people taking advantage of you.

The first thing is going to be to try to minimize the amount of toxic people in your life. If people are taking advantage of you, they aren’t your friend.

The next thing you want to do is be firm and set boundaries. It’s not easy, but there are ways that you can try to express your needs. The DBT therapy skill called DEARMAN is a useful tool. Here’s a quick overview.

None of this stuff is easy, but I believe in you. You can be nice and still have a nice life.

I’m confused why people keep bringing up sugar when OP says they drink the sugar-free ones.

The acidity from carbonated drinks is not great for your teeth tho.

What does this mean? I don’t know of any association swith soft drinks and severe constipation.

It’s ok to feel awkward about it. Even if you are “overthinking”, it’s a perfectly valid reaction to the scenario. It would make a good number of people out there uncomfortable.

I can’t masturbate so I don’t have a ton of advice, but I think the shower is going to be your best option like others say.