I’m a momma and I was planning on driving my son down to the beach with some family/friends. I haven’t worn a bikini since my younger days since I’m super busy nowadays as a single mom working 2 jobs. As I was trying on some of my older bikinis, I couldn’t help but wonder how my younger self was confident enough to be this exposed. I’m not insecure about my body or anything, actually I’m pretty confident since I go to the gym often, so genuinely how do other women have the confidence to rock a bikini?

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    We are on vacation right now and my SO actually wears only the bottom of the bikini and goes bra less to the beach, because she says it’s unfair I can free my nipples and she can not. Well that’s pretty fair I would say?
    We are European though and probably a bit less prude than US Americans.

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      and my SO actually wears only the bottom of the bikini and goes bra less to the beach

      There actually is a drawing challenge (called MensSwimsuitChallenge) that tries to depict this.

      example:

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      my SO actually wears only the bottom of the bikini and goes bra less to the beach, because she says it’s unfair I can free my nipples and she can not

      Doesn’t sound like she can’t.

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      If boobs had guns like in Austin Power, our heads would explode trying to figure out if we cared about the 2nd amendment more or being prudes.

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      Well considering I’m going to be around my son and other family members that’s not really possible lmao.

      • You should reflect back on that “less prude than Americans” part of his statement. It’s only “not really possible” because of widespread American taboos about nudity. If boobs were visible in everyday life - on TV shows and at a typical day to the beach - in a non-sexual way, your son wouldn’t give a crap.

        It’s interesting that in many US cities, there’s no law against women going topless, but if a woman does it, it’s outrageous. Hell, some women get chastised for breastfeeding in public. We’re a messed up society.

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        Social conditioning, once again. We’re French, and it’s totally possible for us.
        Yesterday, among strangers, at the local lake, my 42 year old friend was topless, playing with her 7 year old son and her 5 year old (naked) step-daughter. A 36 yo pregnant friend was wearing a string bikini around her husband, 6 yo daughter, and in-laws. It was a non-issue.
        Not saying all rules can always be broken, but they’re heavily context- and culture-dependant.

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        To be fair, if your son cares it’s only because you/society taught him to care.

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        Why? Does your son not understand human anatomy or is he afraid of boobs?

        We all grew up seeing our moms boobs at some point.