For me, it was that the Internet never forgets and that you should never enter your real name. In my opinion, both of these rules are now completely ignored.

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    I’m a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don’t need to know and we don’t want to know. The only ones who would want to know are scammers or people wanting to give you a shitty time. I only use my real name online for people and places in where it’s required like talking to agents from my bank, insurance .etc And very few friends know my real name through FB and the circle anyways.

    Don’t send nudes online to anybody. I know of some communities where people happily are flaunting it one moment then they make a post later whining about them being exploited or that they thought they were crafty hiding the nudes from someone they’re married with. They delete it but they’re too naive to think that what’s already out there, has most likely been saved by hundreds by now, so you’re fucked either way.

    Another is, is that if you want to be understood, then you need to use proper spelling and grammar. I miss the days when you got kicked at because you used ‘u’ in replacement of ‘you’. It’s just two fucking extra letters you lazy asshole. These days saying stupid shit like; ‘yah fr u tha fam’ is somehow a complete sentence. No, I’m going to give you shit for it and if you want me to bother caring with what you have to say, fucking make some sense. I don’t even get offended by insults when they’re poorly spelled, it just tells me what kind of an inept moron you are.

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      yah fr u tha fam

      The only abbreviations in that are fr and u. Fam is slang for family, not a text only abbreviation. “Tha” is just a transcription of how someone may say “the”. Like “da bomb”. “Yah” is either a typo of “yeah” or the same as “tha”. This feels more like an insult against people transcribing vernacular literally. Are you racist?

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      I’m with you on the no real names, no nudes. “Don’t dox yourself” was the norm pre-Myspace. Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

      I’m fine with shorthand and colloquialisms, especially in the era of the smartphone and their lack of physical keyboards.

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        Facebook made it almost fashionable to do so.

        "

        Zuck: yea so if you ever need info about anyone at harvard just ask

        Zuck: i have over 4000 emails, pictures, addresses, sns

        Friend: what!? how’d you manage that one?

        Zuck: people just submitted it

        Zuck: i don’t know why

        Zuck: they “trust me”

        Zuck: dumb fucks

        "

        One of many sources

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        It made sense with t9 texting. Smartphones have easy to use keyboards and autocorrect. No reason to still type like you have to make 7 or 8 key presses to type “you.”

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        I’m fine with shorthand and colloquialisms, especially in the era of the smartphone and their lack of physical keyboards.

        It wasn’t even cool once t9 emulation came in. But writing with no regard for the audience, that’s apparently eternal.

        Put in the effort or eat the down-votes.

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      “Proper spelling and grammar” according to whom? Is the example you gave incorrect, or just a different dialect of English? AAVE, for example, often gets delegitimized because black people are supposedly less educated, can’t speak “properly”, whatever. But the thing about that is AAVE has its own unique grammar quirks, like habitual “be” as in “I be working”.

      As well, my own dialect has quirks that sound wrong to American ears, (such as the very start of this sentence) but if you try and correct me on them I will politely tell you to fuck an icicle.

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        I don’t care what your skin color is and you’re the one bringing it up. Anybody from all walks of an ethnic background can possess the same levels of less intelligence with potential to sound like that.

        You know, just because you tried sounding tough at the end, I’m going to be a deliberate ass by saying - fix your dialect. It’s “I am working” not “I be working”.

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          It’s “I am working” not “I be working”.

          From how it’s used and understood, it’s a lot closer to, “I am in a situation where I find myself working from time to time”. “I am working” suggests you’re doing it right now, “I be working” does not. This example is a unique, condensed way to convey a very specific idea that your idea of “proper English” cannot convey without a boatload of extra words.

          If that’s still bothersome to you, well, I guess have fun kicking that proverbial land-crawling fish back into the sea if that’s where you get your jollies. IMO some prescriptivism is okay to get people on the same page, but the moment you use it as a cudgel to beat people who are very clearly already being understood, you’re being a prude.

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            The fact that dialects of AAVE can convey meaning in a more complex manner than other dialects of English would never cross this genius’ mind.

            No, any differences exhibited in AAVE must be incorrect and spoken by the daft /s

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          You’re ascribing traits common to AAVE as being associated with lesser intelligence. Think about what that says about you. And that’s not even my dialect, dipshit.

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      I don’t think people really do that anymore, people got faster typing and autocorrect got good

      I do use my real name in voice chats provided I’ve known the person for a few days at least, I hate being called by my username in voice

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      I’m a faithful follower of never using your real name in social parts of the internet. We don’t need to know and we don’t want to know.

      Corollary: there are no girls on the Internet. The simplest way to promote gender equality is to not disclose gender in arbitrary conversation or in the profile. If you still do in an anonymous forum, you are likely trying to take advantage of privileges that the patriarchal societal structure offers you in that situation, and in doing so you are upholding it.

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          Which IMO is a good thing. I don’t mind people having their own identity, but if nobody tracks pronouns (including traditional pronouns) then life becomes easier for everyone and there’s less drama. We need fewer pronouns, not more.

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            That sounds like something an agender person who just assumed they were cis because they went with the flow and never much thought about it would say.

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              It’s just something a person who wants to see everyone as a unique individual instead of putting them in a box says. Doesn’t matter if it’s about skin color, gender, age, etc. Make it okay to be somewhere vague on a multidimensional spectrum instead of having to make everything black or white. In the end none of these factors even matter when we’re discussing which Bionicle is best.

              No, I’m not “assuming I’m cis”. I’m trying not to assume, period. I don’t need a label to know who I’m attracted to and it’s none of your business either.

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      Nah, u wrong fo dat last part homie. Maybe if u tryna have an intellectual discussion then u can write in full n shi. But if it’s just a casual convo, then write casual

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        20 years ago, if someone said ‘u’ for ‘you’ then I assumed they were young. These days if I see someone use ‘u’ for ‘you’ I assume they are 60+.

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          These days if I see someone use ‘u’ for ‘you’ I assume they are 60+.

          Nah. Indolence knows no cohort.