

The biggest thing I learned from living in Italy for two years and then marrying a Korean woman a few years after that is that Americans have fucked up views on sexuality and nudity. I came from a pretty liberal secular hippie type family and I was surprised to find I had some residual cultural hang ups just from growing up in the US.






The thing that stood out the most was some latent inherent shame to being naked. When my wife and I first got together, we’d rent some cheap hotel rooms and go there to hook up, she’d get there first and shower. I’d arrive and she’d answer the door naked and it was just wild to me. She was so comfortable in her own skin and fine just existing totally naked (in the appropriate circumstances). I had to quickly recalibrate what I thought was “normal” and my life was improved as a result.