

Nah thats not a frustration, just your ego settling down. Real frustration is realizing most instances die or have shit registration functions, along with most having unfamiliar names that you’ll also have to remember. Most apps have been a nightmare with this, genuinely just say fuck it and dont even care about this account.
The federation system is cool but not unique, its just what all servers have been doing and now theres a choice being handed to the user as well. It doesn’t really defeat a centralized system.
I always though about something like folding at home but for a social media. Essentially the same thing as a centralized network, but with a scheduled ‘decay’ as main issue for large sites is the actual horde of content. Text based instances could have longer decay time with a refresh basis for visits. With an archival option for regular post, and a trend option for porn-centric instances.
Porn often exploit and subverts most services like this however I think it is a very influential thing that cannot be banned nor freely allowed. However, one can only really generalize so much about porn - but it is a strong way for those in power to subscribe others to their ideals. So noticing trends like the porn hub chart is important. Someone should study 4chan porn trends since 2012 to now. Huge dynamic shift in thread titles alone. All that free fox marketing of the fappening really got their target demographic hooked and the later pepe dogwhistle. Hooboy.
I think of it as the food I must eat.
I am to hunger and I am to eat, I am to end something’s being in order for me to be.
Best I can do is reduce the damage I induce. Eat just enough and waste little. Regardless I did an evil and now that something is no more.
I must have reverence for the harm I induce. To apply this into politics, harm will always happen - best you can do is fixate on the interests that are dire and do your part to reduce the harm in other avenues. The world is so interconnected, that almost every action has a negative - we are often just oblivious for we can only see our part.