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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • I walk a lot. Even in that much lower speed, much lower stakes situation, I can tell you that eating/drinking is generally completely fine but give somebody a phone and they turn into a blind moron with no concept of other people. Even I’m guilty of it, if I’m trying to skip ads on a podcast or something and I absent-mindedly look down at my phone without getting out of the way and stopping first, by the time I look up I’ll have travelled much further than I thought and have been surprised by people popping out of alleyways or crossing roads etc who are now in front of me.

    The number of times I’ve seen people physically walk into lampposts, other people, or just slowly sway side to side on the pavement, taking the whole thing up, while they dick around on their phones… People get out of elevators or up stairs and immediately stop and pull out their phones, blocking the exit for everyone else.

    You can’t use a phone and do anything else at the same time unfortunately.













  • Suffering isn’t good. The growth that can be achieved through suffering can be good. There is a very big difference. Suffering doesn’t guarantee growth. Experience gained through suffering might not always be good (we may become jaded or cynical, or worn down).

    Putting that aside for now, hurting others is bad. Inflicting suffering on others is not good, and doing so to try and force “personal growth” in a direction you desire is absolutely not good. That’s strange, cruel, controlling behaviour. That’s sort of like playing god.

    When people say that suffering builds character, or reference bible passages like Romans 5:3 (And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also, knowing that tribulation worketh patience;) (apologies, I don’t know similar teachings from other faiths although I’m sure most faiths have a similar concept to this somewhere in them), they are typically talking about a sort of impersonal “suffering”. The death of a parent, sickness, poverty, that kind of thing – and crucially this idea is often separated from “blame” and is instead a sort of “faceless” suffering. It could be set up like this so that people can focus inwards or on something spiritually, rather than getting stuck in a cycle of blame or revenge, but other times the suffering in question is literally blameless, such as a parent dying of old age.

    Either way, the key part in your question is that experiencing suffering is an unfortunate but inevitable rite of passage, and hopefully a person will learn and grow as a result, but that intentionally causing suffering is a choice to hurt another human and is bad. It’s sort of two separate things, really.

    I’m aware that I answered a slightly different question, but I’m not sure I understand what you mean when you say suffering is good because it “gives life meaning”?