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Cake day: February 14th, 2025

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  • Whether to forgive a cheating partner is a divisive issue. Some people say it’s something they could never move past, others just don’t think it’s a big deal.

    I don’t think it’s necessarily men or women - its both. Probably more men commented on your boyfriend’s post because he’s a man.

    I can imagine it would be a pretty awful feeling to be in your position - you’ve acknowledged that you messed up, you’ve worked through it with your partner, and now all these people casting judgement on you without understanding the circumstances.

    There’s a lot of different aspects to this. The web is full of “drama llamas”. My guilty pleasure is reading /r/aitah posts, even though I know they’re fake it’s still really engaging and reading everyone’s comments is interesting. People say things online that they would just never say to your face. So comments are way more hurtful.

    My advice has two parts:

    ask your boyfriend to delete the post because the people commenting don’t really know you or the situation and it’s very hurtful

    Secondly think through what you would tell a good friend who had been through something like this, it’s probably something like "yeah you did mess up, but everyone does sooner or later, you’ve learned a lot and you’ve worked through it, " et cetera.
















  • I’m a tax consultant, so I see a lot of people’s side hustles.

    As other’s here have said, once you monetise a hobby it’s not a fun hobby anymore… just another responsibility.

    Take the beads thing for example. Carving some beads to make some cool jewellery sounds like a great hobby, and you could make some really amazing unique gifts for family. However, if you want to make money from it then you need to compete with other etsy vendors - you’ll very quickly find the pieces that sell and then it becomes a question of how many of those pieces you can turn out per hour or per day.

    Economically, making money requires time, or skill, or capital. The most appropriate will be a mix of all three that fits your circumstances. As a “side hustle” you kinda want a little of each rather than a lot of each. Good examples might be:

    • window cleaning - for businesses or residences
    • gutter cleaning - get one of those telescopic pole thingies with a camera so you don’t actually need to go on anyones roof
    • lawn mowing - just a few customers in your street

    These things aren’t “hobbies” but they will be a lot more satisfying, enjoyable, and profitable than carving beads.