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  • Maybe… My understanding (which is admittedly based on not much hard evidence) is that right wingism is more of a symptom than a cause, and that there are basically two or three drivers:

    • insecurity, particularly financial (e.g. shows up as “they’re taking our jobs”, or "fucking dole bludgers). I think greed is sometimes an excessive response to this.
    • trauma (e.g. I was treated terribly, and so I’m gonna treat the world terribly in turn).
    • power-hunger. (which is probably often a reaction to the other two, a need to control your world).

    The insane far-right that are in power in the US, and the people surrounding them are most of the third category… I don’t think much of the base is in that category. But that group knows the triggers for people in the first two categories, and abuses the fuck out of them…

    So yeah… I guess you’re right in that “convincing them of the truth” of any single issue isn’t going to solve anything. But I think aiming to solve those underlying insecurity and trauma issues might… Not that I have any quick-fix solutions…


  • That example’s a good one for a anotger reason: right wingers do need to feel safe, but that doesn’t mean that anything needs to be done about trans people. RW perceptions of what needs to be done are wrong, because they are based on myths and misunderstandings about the risks transness. Or another way to say it: the need for safety is real, solutions proposed by rightwingers are not appropriate, even aside from the issue of trans rights, because they won’t solve need for safety - hiding the bogeyman under a rug or behind criminalisation won’t make it go away, and will increase misunderstanding.








  • Personally I think @WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com’s take is a bit prescriptive, but I do think that if you want a good long-term relationship, then it’s about finding what’s comfortable for both of you, not just for one of you. Boundary pushing can be OK, but usually only with prior consent or better some expression of desire… If either one of you pushes the other into doing something the other doesn’t really want, that’s probably not gonna pan out well in the long run. Listening (especially to the “why” part) and working together is important.







  • And/or (i suspect this is more likely) it will threaten to do so, and mastodon.social/.online will update their TOS to fix the problem identified in the bug report. Either way it’s a win for federation, in that migration is relatively painless for the user…

    I’m also really appreciating the speed and depth of the response to this from the community (e.g. all the comments on the bug report). It’s cool to see!

    edit: Also, Eugene’s response is reasonable and levelheaded - seems like there will be some TOS improvements eventually.