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Cake day: January 13th, 2024

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  • From the commenter above talking about negative experiences with talking to women and female therapists, I think the real solution is that men need to be proactive about supporting each other. Ranting and raving about how women are terrible and don’t know how to help men with an undercurrent of expectations that women (especially a romantic partner) should fix everything is simply not a tenable mindset.

    As a woman who works in the medical field, I am keenly aware of my limitations when it comes to helping men with mental health issues. I think the real, effective solution is for men to start opening up to each other and supporting each other the way that women tend to do among themselves. I don’t mean this as “oh, men are terrible and they need to fuck off somewhere else with their problems”, I mean it as a sincere belief that the best people to help a man through emotional or psychological problems are probably other men given the shared socialization and perspective.







  • I do this now and didn’t have to as a kid…however, I have a weird kidney problem where my kidneys will just dump water, whether or not I have the water to spare. This means that I have a minimum water requirement of 4 liters a day. It’s not as bad as when I was on a really horrible medication that started the whole issue. When I was on that medication I had to drink about 4 gallons of water a day.

    End result: I have a stupid party trick where I can down a liter of fluid in about 10 seconds, and a gallon of fluid in about 5 to 10 minutes depending on how recently I’ve eaten. (I did give myself water poisoning once, but that took 8 gallons over about 14 hours)

    Edit: Also, having multiple water bottles means I have somewhere to put all my awesome stickers!


  • Most of the military members I know are well aware of what the end result is, and the ones that are sticking it out for a prolonged career are doing so in order to try to change things from the inside. Most of the ones that did the minimum amount of time and got out are aware as well.

    And for this part:

    But I cannot respect for a second someone that served in the military and also advocates for others to do so. Because all they are saying is “well, it’s ok to bomb innocent people and disrupt entire countries because otherwise I couldn’t have afforded college”.

    There are shades of gray here and you are stubbornly ignoring any nuance that might exist. For a lot of people, it’s not just a matter of being able to go to college, it’s a matter of being able to eat regularly and keep a roof over their head. There are plenty of veterans that fully acknowledge that being in the service comes with many problems and ethical quagmires, but they still recommend it for people in the position of having to choose between destitution or military service.




  • Most of the people I know that signed up for the military did so because they didn’t have any other options out of high school. Their grades weren’t good enough for college, their families were too poor to keep supporting them, and the job market (especially when I graduated high school in 2009) was so shit that the military was the only viable option for a lot of people. We have slim to none in the way of social safety nets in this country, and for the people who want to try to get some semblance of stability and self-sufficiency after high school, the military is often the best and/or only option.

    Your stance here is woefully narrow-minded and completely ignores the reality faced by many young Americans who are just trying to make their way in the world. It’s hideous and abhorrent that our systems are set up like this to the point that the military is a lifeline for many young adults, but I’m not going to blame them for believing the ubiquitous propaganda or making a calculated choice to try to survive in this capitalist hellscape.


  • I’m not eager to join them, and she spent her money in a way that was impossible to refuse. Are you saying that everyone should have abandoned the planned protest as soon as she took out that ad? Are we supposed to throw hissy fits and cancel everything we try to do because someone that doesn’t pass a purity test participates?

    Unless you’re out there interrogating every single protest attendee and refusing to participate in any political action that your “undesirables” are also participating in…you’re just as much of a hypocrite as you are claiming that I am.


  • I am profoundly well aware of how marginalized people have been victimized for the entire duration of this country’s existence. I work in medicine, and most of my experience has been in emergency medicine. I have more experience than I ever wanted to have with trying to save people from the maw of poverty and destitution and I have been involved in social services in one way or another since childhood. My life is one of the ones on the line if shit goes sideways enough, but that doesn’t stop me from standing up to my superiors to fight for the rights and humanity of my patients, especially those who are members of marginalized groups that face more structural barriers to health than others.

    I am not just an ally. My head’s on the chopping block too, and your assumption to the contrary is insulting.