My go-to is to ask what they like to do in their spare time.
A lot of the time you’ll get answers about how they have none or how it’s filled with chores, but you can always redirect and say, if you suddenly had a bunch of free time just for yourself, and you couldn’t use it to work, what would you fill it with?
In my mind the latter gets you down to what brings them joy, and in some cases how they want to see themselves, which can tell you a lot about a person.
If you live near water, kayaking can be an incredibly immersive pursuit in nature that doesn’t really tax the body (unless you want it to)
Trail running is another one of my favourite things to do, but while much safer than MTB still can have some risks… minimal though, comparatively speaking
Because I’m tired of wearing them by the end of the day, and most of what’s on our household tv I’m not really watching anyway.
Also if I’m messing around on my phone, glasses need to be off b/c distance, and I’m not about to put them on/off every time I switch focus when I’m just trying to relax.
I will wear them if I’m watching something intentionally, though. Like a nature documentary or something with visuals worth appreciating.
I used to think of “blocking” as an extreme measure, but for us individuals, it’s really not. You get to decide what your feed looks like. Especially here.
BAMO -> block and move on
What flipped the mental switch for me was facebook, of all places.
I hate it and was off it for years, then we moved to a small town with no subreddit, only a damn fb group. Man I went on a blocking spree with all the proudly terrible people, and now I have both an actually useful local town group AND a separate handy list of people I don’t need to bother meeting.
I made a set with a white background for you :)
That shortcut! You seriously rock, thank you.
Yeah I tried reaching out to them the day they posted looking for a graphic designer, but they left me on read for the whole week so ehh
Just saw their new icon though, and it’s nice. For sure better than the rudolph rat.
omg I didn’t even know this was a thing… but knowing doves, it’s immediately self-explanatory
their “nests” are just so bad
I love them so much with their 3 scattered sticks on pavement
lemmy.ca has blocked it too.
good eggs, those admins.
Beans… beans everywhere…
Sweet. Lemme see when you’re done!
Yeah, that’s the good stuff 😁
Ragebait. It’s boring and pointless, and it brings out the worst in everyone. I never understood the appeal of being a “troll” though, so idk.
Something else I don’t miss, and maybe this is a little more personal, but often when I would try to participate in a conversation, my comment would get auto-removed for some rule/etiquette based reason I could never really wrap my head around. Like, derailing? I thought I knew what that meant, but had comments removed when I was like, “yeah that answer really resonates with me too! My 123 is xyz.”
Lemmy so far has been much more welcoming to the neurodiverse and I appreciate the organic, freeflowing nature of conversation here.
Obviously, if someone’s being provocatively hateful / an obvious troll, then nuke 'em.
But if people are just trying to join in on the conversation, don’t be a pedantic dick about exactly what kind of conversation is allowed. It had gotten to the point where I was afraid to comment at all for fear I’d be doing it wrong.
Yeah for me, the only draw back to reddit is in its history. There is a wealth of knowledge in those archives, and when I’m looking for balanced and useful answers from actual people (without affiliate links or bot-generated seo bs, or being “marked as duplicate” of another post with 13yr out of date answers lol) it was the best source for the longest time.
Used to be, anyway.
We’ll get there, we just haven’t had the time yet.
When I do open an r/ link that answers my question now, I’m doing it with their tracking, “features” & ads fully locked & blocked, then dipping right back out again. They really ruined a good thing.
I don’t want to pile on, you guys are doing a great job
Immediately for me though, since you asked:
Missing from both:
Memmy was easily my app of choice, but these are some big improvements so it’s between these two for sure now.
Each has important features the other doesn’t, but both are steaming ahead at a record pace. I know all about how the tiniest feature can take ages to code properly, so I’m really appreciative of all the work being poured into making lemmy more friendly.
Especially for us who had apollo set up just right for all our own personal idiosyncrasies lol
Thunder is too far behind to compete right now, but damn if the front runners aren’t setting the bar high
The regex redirect feature is another massive pro. I hope they bring it into Orion as well.
I already use Stop the Madness for this, and probably will continue to as it’s a more global solution, but having it built right into the search engine at least shows they’re taking real steps to hand control back to the user.