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Cake day: June 27th, 2024

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  • God that fucking bot.

    The bot itself is only mildly offensive, but the fieflord bot-love is just repugnant.

    About a month ago news did a “feedback about the bot” thing, in which they declared undying love for the bot above all things and declared any input other than breathless support for the bot to be vote manipulated misinformation.

    There were about 3 mods involved, all contradicting each other, and themselves, very condescending, and very sooky and sulky. “One of the mods almost resigned over this!” kind of stuff.

    You had to start every comment with “look I know you guys are doing your best and investing all your free time as volunteers but…”






  • I gave up on this years ago.

    Figuring out how they got hold of your email won’t be very satisfying. It’s not possible, but if it were you would find it’s some obscure forum you signed up for 10 years ago to make the search function work, which hasn’t updated their forum software during that 10 years, and is now leaking email addresses.

    Point is, the horse has already bolted and now your email address is on the lists that get sold on the dark net. There’s no going back.

    My understanding with spam / phishing is that most email providers will identify and remove 95% of it. gmail will catch 99.9% just because of the volume of emails going through their servers. I personally would pry my eyes out with a fork before using gmail so I’m stuck receiving 5% of spam. It’s nothing really. Every day (or several days) I look at my inbox, action and archive as appropriate, and delete the rest. It literally takes less than 1 second because I would have to “delete the rest” anyway.

    As others have mentioned, “catch-all” email addresses are one method to kind of mitigate or manage the problem, but ultimately I’ve found it to be a cool trick but ultimately inconvenient and maybe pointless.


  • I think you’re pretty much talking about the fundamental attribution error. It’s a cognitive bias whereby we interpret the actions of others as the result of their character, but attribute our own behavior to external situational things.

    I think another component of this is generalisation, like how often does someone have to do mean things to qualify as “an asshole”. Once in a lifetime? Once a year? Every day? All day?

    I used to think I was a super nice person. These days I will absolutely acknowledge that there are times when people would think I was a bit of an asshole. I think sometimes it’s unavoidable if you don’t want to be everyone’s door mat. For example, when you disagree with someone sometimes you can just let it go to keep the peace, but if you feel strongly about it for whatever reason and have to stand your ground, it’s easy to end up looking like an asshole.