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  • Absolutely. However, relational or financial status shouldn’t enter into the equation if someone says the attention is unwanted.

    I had a friend whose parents would literally cross continents to show up unannounced at their doorstep, demanding to meet with grandchildren and make decisions in my friend’s life. A lot of people would just go “aww it’s because they care” but these are people that physically and mentally abused my friend during their entire childhood. They’re estranged for a reason.

    I have a very similar relationship with my mother. She views me less as an individual person and more as property to be controlled and used. When we moved for the first time, I’d managed to upset her one way or another, and her response was to strike me down, straddle me, choke me, and slam me repeatedly in the floor. I was around seven or eight years old at the time. Her showing up and sitting outside of my doorstep for hours on end, demanding that I see her, isn’t a cutesy way of showing her dedication to being in my life, it’s unhinged and completely unacceptable.




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    9 days ago

    Same thing with family members. If you have an estranged parent or so, then harassing and stalking you is somehow always turned into your fault.

    “She just cares about you, she’s your mother!”

    I hope you’ll be rid your stalker soon. I remember how oppressive it was having one, and I can’t imagine how doubly awful it must be to have one that has financial means to do whatever they want. Absolute nightmare.




  • Was listening to my go-to podcast during morning walkies with my dog. They brought up an example where some couple was using ShatGPT as a couple’s therapist, and what a great idea that was. Talking about how one of the podcasters has more of a friend like relationship to “their” GPT.

    I usually find this podcast quite entertaining, but this just got me depressed.

    ChatGPT is by the same company that stole Scarlett Johansson’s voice. The same vein of companies that thinks it’s perfectly okay to pirate 81 terabytes of books, despite definitely being able to afford paying the authors. I don’t see a reality where it’s ethical or indicative of good judgement to trust a product from any of these companies with information.


  • Completely unrelated segue, but your comment reminded me of this one vet appointment I had with my dog.

    He was in for having his teeth cleaned, and came out with his claws trimmed. They managed to cut into his quick on five claws. I don’t even know how they managed to do that, I don’t do that and I don’t have the advantage of him being sedated when I clip them. Then they had the absolute gall to charge me for trimming his claws.

    To top it all off; I had an appointment booked with the groomer next-door a couple of days after that so their “service” was unwarranted and unwelcome.