Unfortunately I feel this conversation has become deadlocked for a number of reasons.

You have clearly dismissed a fellow person with a valid observation and left no room for open discussion. When given the opportunity to express why you do not agree, you continue to be dismissive.

You have ignored the topics that has been brought up and are being discussed. In this case emotional intelligence, particularly among men.

You have not made an attempt to clearly connect your various points into a cohesive argument.

You have not expressed what you have studied in your own words. To express ideas in your own words would show the rest of us how you perceive and understand a topic. This would be a great base for having a meaningful conversation.

Lastly, you have done nothing but blindly praise an individual on a podcast. If the words in your initial post are true, we should never worship anyone.

Taking a step back away from everyone and everything to think of why we react to other peoples words may help us to understand ourselves better. And that’s a good thing.

At this point I am done. As a fellow individual with ADHD (and Autism), I wish you the best on your mental health journey and I hope you approach it with an open heart and open mind. Thank you for giving me a new perspective for me to think about and hopefully understand in the future.

In order to engage you in meaningful discussion, I need to understand your thoughts and perspectives more from your own words.

Why do you not trust the personal view of another lemmy user? We are on a social platform made for discussing a variety of topics and we will always encounter different views. Hopefully this leads to exploring and expanding our own views on the topics we bring up.

I would also like to stay on the topic of men and emotional intelligence which was brought up by LoreleiSankTheShip. I currently do not see how neurodivergence and generational workforces fit into this discussion unless you can clearly state the connections for me.

I do agree with you that the importance of mental health and it’s approaches are not very well explained. However, empathy carries a lot of weight in the discussion of mental health and should not be undermined or under valued.

Lastly, it’s easy to link a video of an expert, but experts are human and can fall for personal biases too. If you can explain to me your interpretation of what this expert is saying, we can begin to have a thorough discussion. Otherwise, I fear we may be deadlocked and nothing more will come of this.

I did watch your recommended clip and am still struggling to understand your view point.

People in general can learn something from stoicism. From a philosophical standpoint it can be a good place to provide tools for improving yourself from within. However, I also find it hard to accept that men are inherently emotionally weaker than women for many of the reasons mentioned by LoreleiSankTheShip.

Modern societies extert incredible pressure on people to conform to unreasonable expectations which greatly repress individuality. These pressures start early and are persistent. Emotionally intelligent men exist and have always existed. I could easily believe many of these men couldn’t even begin to define or explain stoicism. Their emotional intelligence could have been learned from family, friends, partners or community.

A broad and over generalized expectation of modern men are that they be strong and courageous. That they act as independent individuals to care for their family or community. Traits which could be mistaken for a surface level of stoicism.

What we are seeing today in is very much a lack of emotional intelligence. There is a very noticeable deficiency in emotional intelligence in men when compared to women. Unable to reflect inwards about their motivations and outward actions. Unable to empathetically understand how their actions affect those around them. Unable to to identity, verbalize or express the emotions which are happening within them. As a result, men don’t have the proper understanding of themselves to begin the process of improving themselves. Trans men offer a unique insight into this as they have had the opportunity to experience two worlds of gender expectations.

But humans are social animals. Many mammals exhibit social needs. We can look to our closest friends such as cats and dogs and see how true that is. We’ve reached a point where our social communities are fragmented and broken. The ideal of a strong man is heavily expected to replace that missing sense of community.

It’s become and issue so deep and entangled that it’s hard to know where to even begin. I wish there was a simple -ism to unravel this mess but a person is complex. Eight billion people with eight billion unique perspectives is a level of complexity we just don’t know how to even comprehend or manage.

We can start by teaching emotional understanding from within, by being good examples, by creating and maintaining communities or by calling out bad behavior. Unfortunately, these actions can be attacked. It’s an uphill battle and the hill is looking very steep.

I had been involved with the labour board over a wrongful termination dispute. I made complaints about about an abusive workplace and was shitcanned as a result.

During the final settlement where the lawyers were fighting over what my settlement payment would be, my lawyer and I had a bit of a discussion revolving around mental health.

She suggested I should consider a move into mental health services as I was essentially writing off continuing my trade apprenticeship by this point. She noted that I am a good listener and have a very clear understanding of mental health. She even offered to get me in contact with those in the mental health field.

It’s been heavily on my mind to go down that path but a part of me is intimidated. I’ve been able to help a few close friends who all experienced some heavy mental issues over the past couple years but these are people who I’ve become close to and am able to help them through a deep understanding of them.

I tend to get attached to people easily and I’m not sure how I’ll be able to separate work thoughts from my own thoughts meant for my own time. What heavy burdens will make it home with me?

Would I be good at working in such a field? According to my lawyer and those closest to me, I’d be great. But what am I going to do about my own mental health if I follow that path path? I can barely handle children and I’m the biggest kid in my own life. It’s already a monumental effort to keep myself fed and not spontaneously running into traffic.

Fortunately I updated my BIOS from windows before switching to Linux and as of recently, I still have the latest version.

I added amdgpu.runpm=0 and that did increase stability considerably. My system froze up way less often which was great.

I also found that adding processor.max_cstate=1 has made my system even more stable and I haven’t had a freeze up in days now. This page gives a nice run down of what it does.

I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a freeze up in the future but overall my system has been a lot more stable making everything far more enjoyable.

That makes sense. I guess for my case it’s fine since I have more storage than I can use. Additionally, I keep my most important data on multiple offline storages and even that is quite minimal.

I have an AMD + AMD setup but apparently the Dell G5 series has issues with linux so it’s been an uphill challenge.

I did see that LMDE 6 makes it easy to boot different kernels at startup which is handy. I tried looking at Liquorix Kernel but I don’t think it’s ready for LMDE 6 just yet. I can’t recall exactly why but I got a big nope when trying to download it. I think I tried looking at the Zen Kernel as well but couldn’t figure out if it’s just for Arch or if it’s compatible with Debian.

Too much to learn and now enough hours or attention span. Slow progress but I guess it’s a thing to do besides watching my plants grow.

Thank you, that makes sense.

What reasons would people not like doing that?

I personally feel like separation of user data and OS data is easier for me to manage.

I’ve spoken to another user who has the same issue as me and they made a couple suggestions including disabling certain options in BIOS or trying a distribution with a newer kernel.

At first I thought it was issues with iGPU and dGPU switching but I’m beginning to suspect that’s not the case.

Reproducing when it freezes is a challenge because it’s very inconsistent and does not leave and crash reports.

The only improvement I’ve seen yet is switching from Linux Mint 21.2 to LMDE 6 but the kernel is still older compared to the versions that I was suggested for my hardware.

I would like to try a newer kernel just for the sake of trying.

That first bit makes sense, I should be able to figure that out I think.

The reason I want to avoid using an external drive is because it takes a minimum an hour to transfer 4 games worth of data currently. That time is an inhibiting factor for me. I’d like to minimize downtime.

Also I’d like to test gaming oriented distributions with newer kernels compared to what Linux Mint ships with.

I’m not experienced enough with linux to understand if this is a question or a statement on what I can do. In either case, I don’t know how to interpret what this means.

I tried the beta and liked it. The only issue I ran into was that the MozillaVPN app wasn’t working on debian.

I also had not seen much progress on the Debian version of the app from what I found. I could be wrong as that was my first dip into Debian.

Mullvad is available and I might switch to that at a later time when the motivation strikes me.

I prefer the idea of community driven projects though.

I don’t think I’ve heard one good user view on snaps, which is what I’m assuming you are refering to when talking about containers. I don’t have much experience with it but the view on them is overwhelmingly negative.

I do like the concept of cutting out the middle man in this case. However, I’ll probably stick with cinnamon for a while as I’m still learning about the linux environment and distribution hopping will add lots of unnecessary frustration for me.

Thanks for the write up.

I’ve used linux sporadically throughout my life and only started using it daily in the last couple months. I’ve used ubuntu in the past but I can understand the reason to move away from commercial distributions. Since my knowledge of Linux is quite shallow, I have a ton of questions and a need to understand everything.

What is Debian and what makes it an appropriate choice for Linux Mint to switch over to this base?

Also, what values does the development of Debian have compared to Ubuntu?

I get the feeling that moving away from Ubuntu is a step in the direction of a more open source space away from corporate forced standards, is that accurate? If so, what development direction could this take for a project like Linux Mint?

I said ‘could’ because written history of Australia wasn’t really a thing before Europeans arrived and starting documenting their findings. At least as far as I understand.

However I watched this video which talks about aboriginal land management and references European perspectives of Australia when they first arrived. It seems it was often described as a “gentleman’s park” or “a landlord’s estate.” This video also provides quite a few sources.

This paper talks about indigenous land management and how it was disrupted after the arrival of the British. However it’s main focus is in Tasmania and not the main land but still shows the destructive nature of the British newcomers.

To me it seems like a lot of this greener Australia perspective comes from a book called The Biggest Estate on Earth: How Aborigines Made Australia which is referenced in the video I linked. This article briefly talks about the book and gives a little insight to aboriginal land management, European knowledge and their misconceptions.

In the end, I’m just some person on the internet and could be wrong about anything. I am basing my knowledge off my experiences and youtube videos. I did have the opportunity to live in Australia for two years and was able to speak with aboriginals and aboriginal supporters while living there. That alone gave me a new and meaningful perspective of the indigenous people of Canada, there place where I call home.

On a personal level, I believe over the course of relatively recent history that indigenous culture, history and knowledge has been irreplaceably destroyed by those who sought power and ownership. I wouldn’t consider this unique to Europe and it’s history with colonization. However, I can’t speak more confidently about the treatment of indigenous people and their land from other parts of the world such as Russia, Asia (broadly speaking), or Africa for example, as I haven’t come across much of that material.

A similar story could be said about Australia. It used to be lush and green because the indigenous people there had worked with the land to help make it that way. That all turned to the famous red desert outback after it was colonized. All the ancient knowledge of the land was destroyed and all that work had come undone.