RiverGhost

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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • I agree, but I think I understand why I do it.

    TL:DR Maladaptive behavior that is however ultimately harmless since I don’t bother people.

    I was a “gifted child”; was always like 2 school years ahead, started uni at 15 and every single person I met would praise me for being the youngest. I was immature so it got to my head. I also have always looked much younger than I am, which also invites comments. Finally, I also have AuDHD and I’m constantly anxious about not acting my age and being too immature. So I try to look at other people’s ages to guide me in how I’m supposed to behave.

    All of this is maladaptive and I’ve gotten a lot better with time, and I’m still working on it, but I’m not particularly bothered about the actual fact of having an interest in people’s ages. I make sure I don’t ask them about it or bother them about it, but many just offer this information on their own.






  • I do read extremely fast in my native language (Spanish). Feels like entire sentences go straight into concepts and my brain builds a whole world based on what I’m reading.

    However I started reading in a verbalized way with my second and third languages (English and Swedish) because I was completely useless at pronunciation, while reading at a high level. So I had to learn the sounds and they started invading my reading, which I sort of resent.

    But the verbalization is still very mild; faint, monotone, non-enunciated.

    Some people talked about poetry and I hadn’t considered that my absolute lack of poetry-sense could be related. People have told me about the metrics and whatnot and it really doesn’t click. I have to sort of analyze a poem and explain it to myself in prose, and I imagine that defeats the purpose of poetry?


  • People say that the point of activity pub is federation but to me that also means voluntary federation. The possibility of federation. What I dream for it is an option to opt-in instead of opt-out. You should be able to pick “opt-out” if you want a big, connected place. You can have your cake and eat it too by also keeping an account in a big instance of your choice. Most apps let you switch accounts with a tap or two.

    We don’t all want to be thrown into the world all the time; complete federation just makes it a safe space for majority populations and marginalizes minorities by default. No, I’m not saying you’re all evil and exclude people on purpose, it just happens. It happens to me too.

    Some of you seem to think that marginalized people are too soft and want a safe space, but you fail to notice that largely, you also have a safe space for yourself, it’s just that you probably belong to the default in many areas (I am sighted and most of the internet is made for sighted people).

    I grew up in a small forum; people should be able to choose to keep things small, and open in a controlled way. Because that’s the beauty of activity pub, you can still federate with others!

    I understand the very practical problem of lack of moderation tools and to me that’s pretty much the only reason to leave, for now. Maybe come back if it gets better?