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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Even if you are completely correct and this person conspired against you; holding onto this is not great for your mental health.

    The best thing for you is to acknowledge that you were hurt by this and accept that. Then move on, what they did was about them and not you.

    From your text, it could be that they were just selfish and you were collateral damage. My advice stands, give yourself the freedom to move on.


  • As a father of three boys. This is enforced far more by the mother’s of girls than anyone else.

    My oldest made friends almost exclusively with girls before he was five. Without fail mother’s would move their girls away and toward other girls. This happened in a few situations, both structured and unstructured environments.

    When it was dad’s with daughters, it was only about 1/4 of the time, and mums or dad’s with sons never did.

    I have seen it the other way also, where boys were steered to other boys, but it was far less often.

    I used to go to a men’s only yoga class, I was far more comfortable there than in a mixed class. The class was discontinued, not because of lack of interest… but because the instructor got pregnant, it never restarted. She was a great instructor very professional and targeted the exercises to men’s problem areas.

    Men’s only spaces are important, as much as women’s spaces. Men’s mental health is often overlooked, and men’s spaces are an easy way for men to vent about shit that is bothering them.

    Also “our current time” is a little strange, history it’s full of segregated spaces, even of just by social convention. Our current time is far more accepting of mixing than a lot of history.












  • I don’t see how both these claims can simultaneously be true.

    Sorry, my poor communications…I was referring to the social media companies, when I said they had been trying and failing for years. Not trying that hard mind you; moderation is a very expensive problem to solve, and they don’t want to spend money they don’t explicitly have to.

    (it’s) actually about making citizens more easily identifiable online.

    Maybe. That is speculation, probably a nice little side effect. But not the primary goal.

    Independent social media sites however, don’t all have the resources to implement verification systems, so some will feel the financial burden of compliance a lot harder, and others

    This is a great point; and there is an easy way to solve this problem. Not that the govt will care that a simple solution exists. If you don’t have an algorithmic feed a lot of the spread of misinformation is curtailed. If you are not allowed to host images/video etc directly than the moderation of them can be off loaded to 3rd parties.

    What’s more, knowing that the platforms they’re using have their identities will make a great many people more hesitant to speak critically about existing power structures.

    Another great point. I don’t have a good answer to this one, but there are anonymous leak avenues etc for serious stuff.


  • In any case, this ban is literally worse than just leaving the problem be.

    I don’t really agree; the ban will do two things.

    1/ it will show the social media companies that, Australia at least; has tools that they can use to reduce their power.

    2/ show kids that this is really serious; it is not just your parents saying shit you can ignore.

    Will some kids work out how to get around it; yep, 100%. Will it be a big portion; maybe, tech literacy is not as high as it could/should be.

    Holding platforms accountable to a bare minimum standard of moderation against misinformation, bullying and harassment might be a starting point.

    This would be great; but it is also too little too late. They have tried, and failed at exactly this for years.

    And hey, if socmed’s really that bad for you, then us adults could benefit from this alternative, too!

    It is that bad for you! Algorithmic social media is doing you harm.


  • I figure holding tech giants directly accountable for the specific harms they’ve caused

    What if; the social media giants are in another country. Your country doesn’t have jurisdiction there and can do fuck all in reality.

    Maybe fine them??? Sure, which they will fight in court until the end of time; all the while the harm continues.

    I don’t know if a ban will work, or what extra harms it will cause. But there are no good options to tackle this on the large scales of whole countries.

    Algorithmic social media is mind cancer; if you have a better suggestion for tackling this issue. Let us know.

    Lemmy is social media; but there is no algorithmic feed, my views are not being manipulated by some engagement maximizing machine.