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  • Getting a teeny bit slammed for your comment, but I think the simpler answer is: you probably wouldn’t. If instagram is working for you and yours, then I’d imagine you’ll stay there. That’s totally fine. This is a thread about federated alternatives, though, so the overall subject may not apply to you.

    I like pixelfed because a) it doesn’t have ads for 2/3 of the content, b) it doesn’t have reels (which IMO go against the entire point of instagram to begin with), and c) I’m specifically not looking for pictures of my friends. For me, instagram is a platform for discovering art from other people. It still works for that, but there’s so much other stuff on there getting in the way. Pixelfed is “back to basics” for what I’m looking for in an art sharing platform.







  • I think it’s important to bear in mind that some of those things are what neurotypical folks, I guess you could call them, use to convey interest or disinterest. Eye contact is a way to express interest, and helps to show one is intently listening to the speaker. Conversely, frequently glancing away is kind of the body language equivalent of giving short “uh huh” type answers when one is trying to disengage from a conversation.

    My point isn’t that you should feel bad about struggling with these nuances; I just think it’s worth mentioning that some of those negative reactions you may have experienced just has to do with expectations in body language. It’s not that someone who’s neurodivergent is being an asshole, it’s just that they’re sending out signals we’re otherwise used to interpreting as disinterest, and that is (often) off-putting.

    Again, it’s not something to feel bad about, it’s just communicating on different wavelengths so-to-speak. Sort of like a language/culture difference.