How to respond? If it’s online block them and carry on if others are actually engaging with the subject, if not then go somewhere else.

If offline and nobody else is really engaging with you positively about it, say “alright” and walk away.

heck yeah, welcome fellow gentoo user!

Edit: Just in time for xfce 4.20 to become stable soon too!

Yes and no.

There are more calls for violence, yes.

But a lot of people on Lemmy have a lot of catching up to do in understanding the world, nuances and getting rid of outdated and harmful thinking stagnated by clinging onto certain ideologies and belief systems.

That would be way more ‘radical’ than just violence alone.

Yes, this is a good solution too.

If they’re going to insist on a ‘default’ though, they shouldn’t and should ask instead.

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This is bad though, what about all the people who have a really difficult time seeing with dark themes and thus would find it difficult to change it?

Really they should have asked people what they want on startup or some such, not make decisions for them.

The Narcissist Scare by Sarah Z — This explains a lot, the term has been wildly misused and thus people don’t really understand what it actually means.

Plus there is a focus on punitive ‘justice’ very much in the systems we live under instead of either trying to understand people and trying to help them either directly or indirectly.

Allegedly, it is a difficult neurodivergence to live with in a healthy, non toxic way. However, I’ve never personally seen that from anyone I know officially diagnosed with it, in fact they are well aware that they have it and are trying to do better, a lot of people are armchair psychologists and love to diagnose with no proof, misattributing it to other things, either trauma or the systems we all live under which causes people to act in terrible ways.

For those who have genuinely been affected by the actions of those who genuinely have it though, I suspect they feel as if they have to see as everybody with it as exactly the same to try to defend themselves. However, in actuallity this likely just makes people worse because not having community or people to point out when you are doing harmful things or getting you help is likely going to make people act out or seek out others who will reinforce their beliefs instead of encouraging them to get help in ways that actually work instead of the vitriolic hating ways most do to them. Though yes, I get that people shouldn’t have to be around those that do them harm but by seeing anyone of any group as all the same it may be doing more harm than good instead of getting to know individuals.

Personally, I think a lot of the systems we live under don’t help with the behaviour of anyone with neurodiverse conditions nor those that need protection from actual toxicity because they are stagnating and do not allow those that need help to get it due to being alienating and often lacking the resources they need to get help.

We have been thinking long and hard about this and figured out it isn’t just one thing, it is a mixture of:

• Capitalism
• Colonialism
• Patriarchy
• Misogyny
• Racism
• Cops
• Constant surveillance
• Monoallocisbinaryhetnormativity
• Queer{phobia/misia}
• Representative democracy
• Monarchies
• The legal system in most places
• Heirarchy in general
• Authoritarianism etc etc

All these things keep causing extreme harm to the people who live under them yet we keep being told it is for our own good by those who have everything to gain from keeping things the way they are leading to people either tearing themselves apart by trying to live up to the impossible system/standards or failing to do so and dying or worse.

Thank you very much for answering my questions 🙂

So you are using in its correct context of abuse (manipulation) over a long time period of time meant to make you question your perception of reality and often leads to poor mental health like it was shown in the original film and not a single instance of such which granted can still be abuse but is not exactly gaslighting?

Actual gaslighting or lying, disagreeing etc that people have taken the word gaslighting for and misused it?

Don’t get a tesla for one, apart from that try not to get any that has internet or other services if you can.

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Wow, that’s pretty dire. I have tried dating apps and didn’t really ever find much luck in them and started looking in places where dating isn’t the goal instead like hobbies or common community spaces and slowly building relationships that way.

There’s nothing in their profiles about their interests?

A good solution here is to ask open ended questions instead of ones with a yes or no etc answer and to talk about their interests.

Yes, thankfully my therapist doesn’t say that but she does seem to say it’s all on me to deal with and change since I can’t change them, which is fair.

Thankfully I have a few folks helping me escape them, but it’s a slow process.

Biological ‘family’.

Okidoke, hope you have a pleasant life and you never get upset about the way folks talk to you about anything or refer to you.

Wow, the award for quickest turnaround for proving the point goes to…