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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • First of all, I’m proud of you for being the kind of person who is self-critical enough to ask questions like this. Things like ‘Do I speak hurtfully?’ And ‘Am I acting with privilege?’ Are hard to seriously ask, because they challenge our entire life structure to some extent, and might even require us to undertake the perilous and difficult task of manually adjusting our beliefs.

    Then, to address what you actually asked, I think a general term is in your favor, if it’s true. Would you rather communicate that you feel for everyone undergoing an experience, or just most of them? It’s an easy thing to forget, that non women can become pregnant, and I doubt anyone blames you for misspeaking. That’s not an asshole thing to do. Nor is it an asshole move for someone to correct you. That’s just the dialectic of culture functioning properly and healthily. It’s unfortunate that we’re trained to associate self-change as a negative thing, because we should be questioning ours and other’s beliefs constantly, imo







  • The word I keep coming to is deluded.

    These people, the followers and the leaders, are deluding themselves.

    Have you ever met someone who thinks they’re dating a 5 star military general who just needs one more google play gift card to marry them? A week in, and you might think they’re foolish, or perhaps naive. But after a year, it starts to become clear that they’re indulging in a fantasy. They know it isn’t real, but they’ll do anything to pretend a little bit longer.

    The scary part is, if you’re dying already, why not? You can’t convince them otherwise because they don’t want to believe otherwise. It’s literally not worth their effort to change and grow at that point. At least from the myopic perspective they’re working off of, I suppose.