Yeah, I think that line is getting used as a thought terminating cliche. While the statement is certainly true, not being immune is completely ignoring the idea that people can vary in how susceptible they are.
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Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.English
14·1 年前As to why I think you are autistic; misunderstanding common aphorism, rigid focus on “how things should be”, hard statements attempting to assign intent to actions without mentioning tone. Especially that last bit equating inflection to indicate a question as understanding tone.
I’ll try to clarify. In conversations between non-autistic people, there is an additional layer to the conversation beyond the information in the words themselves and beyond the implications of basic punctuation. Body posture, eye contact, facial expression, volume, and cadence at which you speak all convey both emotions and intent. These things can be observed and interpreted instinctively.
People with autism cannot do this to one degree or another. They absolutely still broadcast these things when they speak, but are largely unaware of it.
Think of it in terms of sound. How could you know if you are whispering or yelling if you are deaf?
Are you doing the emotional equivalent of whispering when you speak? Answering questions with a one word sentence with flat affect. People will change the subject or switch to talking to someone else because they interpret that as you expressing disinterest.
Are you doing the emotional equivalent of yelling your inner feelings with everything word. People will become visibly uncomfortable when you speak and try to get away from you as soon as they can.
When you claim you speak in a “clear, loud, neutral voice” while staring them in the eyes; I believe that you are both clear and loud. I’m not so convinced that you are as neutral as you think.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice.English
14·1 年前Reading through the responses, it is blatantly clear that you are autistic, so I’ll ask a question that might not have occurred to you. When someone else is speaking, do you wait for them to finish speaking before you do? Are you aware of the tone of your own voice? Both of these things matter far more for how people will react to the things you say than I think you are aware.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
Technology@lemmy.world•‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharingEnglish
32·1 年前I’ve never really bothered with relationships, and everytime I see some shit like this, it validates that choice.
Remote work is a step in the right direction at least. In my case, I’m generally just too exhausted to bother going anywhere other than home and work, which definitely limits any socializing. Work culture isn’t entirely to blame of course, but it sure isn’t helping.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•When asked "are you an honest person?" The only logical answer is yes.English
3·1 年前I’ve never told the truth before and I never will.
My family does this, but then ignore me when I say I don’t want anything. Then I end up saddled with some random garbage I feel obligated to keep.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Why do males complain about female-led stories or too many female characters when the majority are still dominated by males?English
11·1 年前I think you’re reading too much into intent here. The only reasoning that goes into these decisions is target audience. Who will buy what you are producing? When most of the comics that you mentioned were written, the perception was very much that their readers would be boys.
If there’s anything to be mad about, it’s that focus testing and demographic targeting makes for shit entertainment. It means companies are trying to make something that sells instead of trying to tell a story.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
Technology@lemmy.world•Elon Musk has unusual relationships with women at SpaceX, WSJ reports - The VergeEnglish
7·2 年前A wealthy man from Soth Africa has weird views on eugenics? I’m shocked!
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•This is way too expensive for a drink.English
3·3 年前Do the French dislike honey?
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you call someone born in the US besides "American"?English
3·3 年前If somebody called me a seppo, I wouldn’t be offended, I’d just think they were kind of dumb. It’s just too silly to take seriously as an insult.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you call someone born in the US besides "American"?English
2·3 年前Well, no. That’s a kind of coffee.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•How do you call someone born in the US besides "American"?English
1·3 年前It’s also called Gaia, but Gaians sounds silly.
Portosian@sh.itjust.worksto
politics @lemmy.world•Voting platform sees 35K new voter registrations following Taylor Swift’s call to actionEnglish
6·3 年前There’s a tendency for people to look down on stuff that is too “mainstream” while simultaneously ignoring why it is popular.
I use the same name for most things out of habit, but I wouldn’t be too put out if it is taken when signing up for something new.
There’s no fucking way Glomble is the real name of a video platform.