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  • Overall, I would say so yeah.

    For the bullying thing, not everyone’s parents are available or willing to discipline their kids.

    And for the athletics thing, personally I believe that athletics is more about developing young adults into good people rather than the sport itself. And my school had a bunch of other things like grade minimums, required volunteer hours, we would wear dress shirts and ties before meets, and some other things like that.


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    7 months ago

    Okay so you have no reason. Which is because having sexually explicit images, drawn or otherwise, is gross and weird and disturbing. And the fact that you are continually doubling down shows me that you likely need your hard drives and notebooks checked.

    Please don’t respond again unless you are telling me what country you are from so I can report you to the appropriate authorities.



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    I feel like you didn’t read my comment thoroughly enough. I said it can constitue CSAM. There is a surprising amount of leewat for teenagers of course.

    But no, I’m not gonna let you get away that easily. I want to know the why you think it’s morally okay for an adult to draw sexually explicit images of children. Please, tell me how that’s okay?





  • man is conditioned from a young age not to show feelings

    I feel like you skipped over this part way too quickly. Myself and other men have been hearing things like “it’s not manly to cry”, “whining isn’t going to do anything for you”, “being weak is girly”, and countless other things for my entire memorable life

    And it’s not just men telling me this. It’s men, women, adults, my classmates, teachers and mentors.

    It’s not a good thing. And it’s changing now, which is so good. But man hearing that from your earliest memories makes it really set in.


  • I am on my fifth therapist. The first one I was seeing I kinda stopped going and then he retired, then I had a GF cheat on me and that was super brutal so I started going again.

    First therapist was the stereotypical “feelings are okay!” kind of therapist, second one she just automatically assumed it was my fault and was basically telling me that cause I’m a man I should have done better, and the third just immediately jumped to medication like halfway through my first session.

    Ended up with my current therapist and she’s great. I really like her because she regularly tells me that I’m just straight up being stupid or ridiculous and just need to handle my shit. Which works amazing for me.



  • Arguing what you believe in is not what “arguing in good faith” actually means. If you’re arguing in good faith it means you aren’t using any logical fallacies, insults, and are genuinely attempting to have an actual conversation. It has nothing to do with how good of a debater you are, or how valid your argument is.

    So you’re Florida man could absolutely be arguing in good faith about the beehives in the center of the earth even though that’s very easy to disprove, while someone arguing for gar rights can arguing in bad faith when they start saying things like “every single Republican is a Nazi” (strawman argument) even though it’s objectively a good thing.

    Here is a good article about what “arguing in good faith” actually is.

    And yes, I know it’s Grammarly which is an AI tool, but I read through it myself and it’s a good article.



  • For #6, I don’t think we necessarily have to move away from the idea that being a man means being a provider and a protector. At least to me those are some of the core tenants of being a man.

    The person above you mentioned the men in Avatar the last Airbender. But I also want to add in the men in LOTR, Gomez Adams, Ted Lasso, Kratos in the newer god of war games, and Steve Rodgers.

    These are men who are caring, loving, emotional and they are (mostly) able to show those emotions, capable of growth, and able to admit when they are wrong. But they are still men. Men who struggle with anger, men go to war and protect their families, men who are incredibly strong in the face of struggle, men who sometimes make “inappropriate” (to the left) jokes, and men who strive for nothing else but bettering the lives of those in their care.

    I sometimes hate that what counts as “positive masculinity” is really just feminity but dressed up in a blue bow. Men are not women and telling them that they can’t be super competitive, can’t be angry, and can’t fail is just setting them up to fall into toxic masculinity. This might just be me talking about the culture I was raised in but those things aren’t necessarily a bad thing, and erasing what a “man” has been for generations isn’t going to win you any extra fans.