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  • Yeah exactly so nothing i mentioned was actually rolling anything back, trans people never had equality, women never had equality, minorities do not have equality. You will never have equality under a capitalist system unless you have the $$$ and lawyers to backup your demands for it,.

    But please keep being loud about how everyone who disagrees with you is trying to take away your rights (the ones you never had to begin with) and making up strawmen to argue with so you don’t have to address anything in reality. I’m sure you’ll make progress any day now with that attitude.




  • when I offered examples earlier, I wasn’t endorsing those views I was referencing arguments I’ve heard others make. Sharing an example doesn’t mean I personally support it, any more than mentioning a conspiracy theory means I believe in it.

    When I mentioned “women’s safety,” I was reflecting how some cis women frame their concerns not my own view. Many of them aren’t transphobic, but simply misinformed or exposed to fear-based narratives, often through social media and sensationalist news. That’s part of why I left platforms like Facebook it was full of that kind of rhetoric even in unrelated spaces.

    I absolutely understand if some people don’t want to engage with those views. But I do believe there’s value in having allies who are willing to engage in good faith, challenge misconceptions, and bring people closer to understanding and empathy especially in a climate where trans rights (and many others) are under attack.

    This isn’t about compromising trans safety or dignity. It’s about strategy and outreach—about trying to build broader coalitions and prevent further regression. We may not change everyone’s mind, but we can still work to prevent them from siding with those who want to strip rights away entirely. In that, we’re all on the same side.


  • Just to be clear AGAIN I’m not suggesting trans people should give anything up, nor that seeking equality is “too much.” That’s a misrepresentation of what I said. My original point was observational, not prescriptive. I was commenting on how polarized discourse has become, especially compared to previous civil rights movements, like the fight for gay rights in the 90s and 2000s.

    I’m not arguing against pushing for rights or progress. On the contrary, I support continuing that fight wholeheartedly. My concern is about how infighting and rigid framing can stall progress and alienate allies. That’s the issue I was trying to highlight.


  • Just to clarify, I’m not disagreeing with you. My concern is about how certain approaches on all sides of complex issues can unintentionally lead to greater pushback. I’m not saying people shouldn’t push back at all, but rather that the “all or nothing” mentality often shuts down meaningful dialogue and hinders progress.

    My original point was an observation, not a prescription. I’m reflecting on how discourse today feels more polarized compared to the more incremental, dialogue-driven progress we saw during earlier movements like gay rights 20–30 years ago or civil rights 50–60 years ago.



  • First off, thank you for taking the time for an execellent response. This is pretty much the kind of compromise im talking about, you acknowledge there are people with genuine concerns, but the vocal majority are acting in bad faith. You didnt just say anyone who disagrees with you is a bigot, you brought more information to backup your positions.

    Honestly, i am with you 100% on everything you mentioned already. The reason im posting the question like this is because sadly it seems my partner of 16 years, has fallen down the Jk Rowling rabbit hole, and i know for a fact my wife does not hate trans women, but also wants “women only spaces” because on facebook and twitter you basically get nothing but hateful stuff vaguely disguised as "safety” or fairness concerns. Its not exactly easy to convince a 49 year old life long feminist that they are falling for propaganda.

    Its one thing when to have this kind of disagreement with random internet people, and quiet another to have it with someone you respect and care about. The point is conversations can and should be had. If its mostly bad faith actors being vocal with fake concerns, why not respond with something that has genuine aswers to those concerns, like what you did here so that the people who do have good faith concerns but arent speaking up dont get overwhelmed by only seeing the bad faith side of things?