This is purely anecdotal of course, but most of my (male) friends and family members who resist going to therapy aren’t really turned off because of access to a specific service tailored for them or not; they’re “turned off” from it largely because of the social perception of men going to therapy in general.

What I mean to say is, no, I don’t think we need more therapy “tailored” towards men, all (decent) therapists already specifically try to bend their particular therapy-ing style to match their client, regardless of gender. We need to change the perception of what it means to get therapy (at least in my opinion).

I use Linux on my personal laptop, my work laptop is a Mac, but my desktop (main computer) is still Windows largely cause of video games. Lot of the games I like to play don’t work or require more tweaking than I’m willing to invest to get them running on Linux. I also play flight sim and racing sim games with peripherals a lot, and if the game support on Linux seems bad, the support for those peripherals is even worse lol.

“Yeah, my dad is a billionaire with a rocket car and he invented toothpaste!”

There was a girl who lived down the street from me at one point who swore to the whole neighborhood that her dad sued the local Burger King for millions of dollars because he found rat turds on his burger. No, Victoria, we all live in a trailer park in singlewides, that BK didn’t even have millions to take, come on now lol.

Seems like a good chef/recipe writer/whatever he is, but I dislike his personality/TV presence and can’t stand watching him.

The edit: omg thank you for awards/upvotes comments just feel like such a self-congratulatory circlejerk, as if the point of the post was to “win” at reddit by getting the most points. The “meta” around reddit itself became less of a discussion and more a game to play to get the most points.

To be clear, I don’t directly hate the “thank you” post edits, I dislike that they’re a symptom of the “meta” of reddit becoming less around the links it aggregates and more around itself, maybe?

I remember being introduced to reddit years ago. It was still new and unknown, there was in-jokes and cringey bacon narwhal shit I don’t even quite remember. It was fun, it was cringe, it wasn’t doomscrolling it was genuine engagement and I really enjoyed it.

Then the longer I spent on it the more hostile it became. Almost every comment thread is full of contrarians looking to argue with you just to get more upvotes and edit: omg thx 4 awards!!11! bullshit, bots “correcting” people’s spelling and telling you how many consonants are in reverse alphabetical order in your username omg so cute! it just became regular, boring old social media.

Then the leadership bullshit kept just getting worse and worse and worse, every time you hear anything about what reddit (as a company) does it’s just more and more hostile to users. The API/app changes and the way it was handled was the last straw. Users don’t hate reddit, reddit hates it’s users, the company has shown nothing but contempt for the users and unpaid moderators for years and I’m just sick of it and that long term animosity coupled with the last set of changes? Yeah, fuck reddit.

Not entirely. There’s a couple larger subreddits I enjoy and tbh it’s still my go-to for doomscrolling.

However my desire to interact with reddit couldn’t be any less. Zero desire to post or comment anything due to the sheer hostility of the site to it’s users.

I think if lemmy continues to grow in userbase it could completely replace reddit, but not at this immediate moment.

I see a couple ways you could do this. For what it’s worth, I think Lemmy may be close enough to what you want out of the box. I run my own private instance similar to how you’re laying out, although I don’t “disable” registration, I do require account approval by an admin. I’m sure at some point I’ll start getting spammed with registrations, but thus far it hasn’t been an issue. Similarly, federation can be disabled as a setting in the admin section of Lemmy.

What you’re laying out on the technical side is also absolutely possible. Lemmy has a JS client you can pull in as a dependency to manage the calls from Javascript, but it also describes the HTTP endpoint for said call, so you could make your own calls using a separate back end service (ie: after your form submits it makes the call over to your Lemmy instance to register the user).

Here’s the register call specifically, which registers a new user on your instance: https://join-lemmy.org/api/classes/LemmyHttp.html#register

However, note that they would still not be “approved” (if your instance required approval to join), but you could just make another API call to complete that process: https://join-lemmy.org/api/classes/LemmyHttp.html#approveRegistrationApplication

As another option, I haven’t dove into the actual code, but to the best of my knowledge Lemmy is ultimately just interacting with a Postgres database, my guess is you could likely also connect to this database and directly insert the appropriate rows to create your new user accounts. Definitely use some caution with this approach though, ensure you’re using separate database users with appropriate permissions for each application. Additionally, know that if you write code to handle custom user registrations by writing straight to the DB, you’ll have to be mindful of updates to Lemmy that change the DB schema for that table will (most likely) break your registration script/code.

Lastly, if you really wanted to, you could just fork Lemmy itself! The UI and API are completely separate services, there’s nothing stopping you from forking the UI part of the project and applying your own custom changes to the registration flow for your own instance!

At one of my previous gigs our boss was big on the “double the devs/half the time” mentality. Our favorite response was 9 women can't make a baby in 1 month

I set up my own instance to mess around with (and what I’m posting from now). The other instances interact with mine just fine and by default. It is certainly possible they could explicitly blacklist your instance, but short of an admin of another instance personally taking umbrage with you I can’t see that happening.

For myself I have set my instance to be private (for me and some friends) and the other instances I “federate” with are done on a whitelist, although you can definitely open up to everything and instead deny specific instances with a blacklist.

Enjoying it a lot. Set up my own instance to try out, and exploring a lot of others. I enjoy the community a ton!