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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Been 20 years exactly almost for an actual “concert”, like just seeing one or two bands. Travelling to a venue is expensive for me as I live in the middle of nowhere. Plus I don’t really have anyone to go with. I go to local gigs with my brother and his girlfriend once every month or two. They travel all over for concerts but I think I’d feel like a third wheel if I went with them, though I might tag along if it turns out they’re seeing a band I really want to at some point.

    I went to some festivals in 2023, it feels easier to justify the cost of travel to see a bunch of bands over a whole weekend. Was actually going to go on my own but my brother came with before he got with his gf. Might actually do one on my own next year. Rebellion in Blackpool is great and indoors which is a big plus in the UK.




  • Sorry to hear that. I also lost a friend to addiction who’s experiences with older men in her formative years were unfortunately quite negative, which sent her down the addiction spiral and made her seek out more experiences with older men. Those experiences and the addiction both, I believe, ultimately stemmed from her father’s actions. His own addiction and abusive, neglectful behaviour being a result of trauma in his early life. I can’t speak to your friend’s past of course but I imagine men and substances filled a hole in her own life likely left by a similar generational trauma and abuse cycle.