Context, I’m 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.
As I’ve aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)
But when I’m 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?
I feel like there is a window that moves with you as you age. At 47 I find women attractive up to their early 50s, and down into their 30s.
I mean dating attractive here. I’m not going to try and claim that a hot twenty something on the telly does nothing for me
its normal. my tastes have changed as I’ve aged. luckily my partner didn’t stay in her 20s either lol
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The full analysis is of course much more complicated, but I can’t stay to talk about it because I have a date.
Eventually looks are going to be the least important component of attraction. It will continue to be about emotionality and familiarity. Young adults are going to feel less and less relatable and therefore less and less attractive.
There isn’t a limit, your tastes on what you consider “attractive” will change over time. When one is young one only thinks on reproduction, and the older one gets, the more prevalent just having someone who you enjoy keeping you company.
When one is young one only thinks on reproduction
Depending on your definition of “young”, what it actually is is that young people mainly think of fucking.
Which looking at it on a purely biological lens is to satiate a need to procreate.
Speaking in terms of ultimate (evolutionary) causes, obviously, but on a proximate level of, for example, what the people in question actually think and feel, as well as the practical outcome given the accessibility of effective contraceptives, it has nearly nothing to do with reproduction.
Xaviera Hollander said that a man isn’t old until there are no women his own age he finds attractive.
So I was old when I turned 13?
Or gay?
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It could be two things
You’re asking a completely subjective question about yourself to other people. What possible answer could you hope to get?
You’re right i should discount the experience of everyone else in the world.
Ive never been on fire, everyone that has and survived hasn’t enjoyed it but maybe i shoukd burn myself just in case
Possibly a series of subjective answers that display a pattern. You pedantic twat…
Maybe other people have a similar initial experience, but changed as they aged and therefore can impart some wisdom.
You eventually see different-dimensions of attractiveness…
Young women’s simple vitality is like a breath of fresh-air in the eyes, after living in the smoggy downtown, – but … their minds are too blank.
Sometimes you see gorgeous determination…
Sometimes you see profound depth, pulling at one’s soul…
Dwelling deeply in both yoga & meditation can do that, as I discovered a few years ago…
( I hadn’t known it’d be visible until seeing it! : )
Sometimes you see delightfully ferrocious multiple-intelligences in a woman…
but our world is so systematic about stomping-out girls’ & womens’ LivingValidity, LivingWorth, LivingPotential, & LivingOpportunity, that it’s too horribly common to see only 1 dimension of pulling-one’s-Eternity-to-them, for me, anyways…
I’m committed to ripping my Soul/CellOfGod from the endless-churn-of-OceanOfPhenomena/UniversesStream.
Solitude, Dwelling Within: war against my unconscious-ignorance.
Forever.
Someday one of the someones/personalities/lives that this-Soul has, will get the final breakthrough…
Someday, UniverseContainment will be broken, for this Soul/continuum.
Enlightenment can happen: the basic foundation-realizations exist, so therefore the rest of the structure, already-described long ago, must also exist.
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Physical attraction is a tingling of the spine. It’s basically relying on the animal in all of us. Not that it’s inherently a bad or good thing, it’s just a fact. I believe “young, dumb and full of cum” is the phrase, that or the misnomer: “you can’t fuck a great personality”, exclaimed by probably many a young boy who want to “spread their seed”. All of these terms speak to a time when hormones were raging and the cup filleth over, when self discipline needs to be taught so that the young minds don’t run amok.
But the fact is, you can fuck a great personality. Emotional attraction, intellectual attraction, or even spiritual attraction, often gets overlooked - especially in the younger years. It’s something that becomes more important as your grown older.
The act of physical intimacy however is exactly that, intimate. It’s a matter of trust, communication, a melding of minds and bodies, something that knows no age. Attraction can be based on several factors, physical attractiveness being only one of them, and can be the way you focus on cultivating your emotions to not prioritize physical attractiveness as much. This is hard in the world we live in, as beauty standards and vanity run rampant.
After all this I’d have to say yes, your grandparents might be fucking - like right now. Give your grandad a cockblock call, and I think his fist might be attracted to your face. At least that never changes.
