people have been demonizing it for most of the AD years i think but it’s quite pleasant really. are there any proven negative effects?

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    It’s more valorized than you think. There are places on the internet that are very social and masturbatory. Check out bateworld. If you’re single and are a male looking for a male, be prepared to be disappointed chatting with hetero males that are married that get off on jerking off with other men behind their wives’ backs. That’s pretty much a major sector of the population on bateworld. I’m kinda gay, but I surmise that the hetero world and marriage makes the sex for the hetero males kind of boring. I can’t say why, I’m trying to figure it out. A survey, if you will. Basically, I predict that the end result to my survey will be: men really like their dicks because major dopamine. Men get bored with their wives because whatever reasons I don’t know about. Men like their own dicks and somehow society has taught them to like their dicks so much, to the point that they often send dick pics via SMS or Whatsapp. So then they start liking other dicks? Explain to me, the gay man, why hetero men enjoy seeing x-rated pornography where the dick is larger than the hole that it is penetrating. Is it connected to the dopamine? Anyway, bateworld seems to prove that men migrate towards jerking off as a dopamine hit and men in particular are very interested in socializing with other men in need of the dopamine hit, all the while getting off on the taboo against masturbation. Me, being kinda old, I remember the good old days when you went out drinking with high hopes of having your penis touched by another person, if only briefly. 2024 is a new world, in which men are seriously confused about dicks and dopamine.

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      I think this is a case of “The internet can take the niche 120 people out of the 8 billion on Earth and make them seem like they’re normal and everyone is like them”. Loud voice, itty bitty percentage of the population. If you go to “car-fuckers.com” you’ll leave thinking 4 out of 10 men have sex with their car and that’s why shows like Top Gear/Grand Tour are popular lol

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        I think you want to be right, but you should probably prove yourself right by signing up for a bateworld account and see for yourself. You’re probably meaning well, being a happily married, hetero male, and don’t want to believe that some of the hetero males you wave to as you drive past them, some of your cousins, or even your favorite co-worker with a wife and five kids, are probably on that web site jerking off to it. *edit: also, the web site has been making money for over 20 years. It’s always been chock full of married straight males.

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      Some people are bi+ and just aren’t out yet or don’t even know exactly what they are. And that’s fine. I also believe it’s probably a pretty small percentage of the population. Fwiw, you can be in a differing sex relationship and still be somewhat curious about the other side of the coin. I think the worst thing people can do is be ashamed of it, then hide it at all costs where it manifests as this sort of website. Instead of having conversations among friends and spouses and more healthy methods of exploring one’s sexuality, such as going to pride events and making diverse, enriching friendships.

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        some people aren’t, and they like the taboo feel. really, don’t try to educate me. I know all about it. Try, instead, to be less blah. We’re not talking about “some people” we’re talking about men who are really into their penises. Your public service announcement, while making me yawn, also makes me think that you’re really not paying attention to what I’m talking about at all! These people I’m talking about are not gay, or questioning, or curious, or obsessed over their sexual orientations. They’re heterosexual. Heterosexual men enjoy their own penises. Your “intervention” is kind of stupid and uncalled for here. I’ll gladly talk to you about gay rights or whatever, but this is not the place. Biologically, I’m explaining, being a man and having a penis, you basically have an easy target to get some dopamine. We are formed this way. More women might like to chime in on this conversation. Are they getting easy dopamine hits off their clits? Were they raised to do this by their parents? No. Women are still subjected to shaming for sexual pleasure. Men, on the other hand, are encouraged to be aware of their pleasure organs. I really wish I could delete your bullshit comment. It has nothing to do with what I’m talking about.

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          This is the most obvious “blackmailing bi-curious men” scheme I’ve ever read. Just say it Omeggle with consenting adults.