I still get replies to questions I asked on reddit most of a decade ago that never got fully answered, and I really appreciate the people that make that effort.

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tiring having 2 personalities?

I personally find it very calming. Personal me doesn’t need to worry about interactions that work me had. Similarly, work me doesn’t worry about all the stuff in my personal life, allowing me to focus on work.

but they bore me. And engaging EVERY topic? I disagree: to extroverts this comes naturally, effortless whereas I have to consciously engage and listen to a boring story. To me this is like a second job of top of my duties.

Yes, you will occasionally be bored at work. Yes, socializing is a form of work for us introverts. But what you don’t seem to get is that this isn’t a second job; it’s part of the main job.

One person’s “getting to the point” is another person’s “stripping away context”, unfortunately. Sometimes we just have to suffer through a long anecdote because the speaker can’t separate the relevant and irrelevant parts themself. They’re not trying to waste our time, they just organize information differently.

The problem here isn’t just your introversion. You see smiling at the receptionist for five minutes a day as an unacceptable working condition; but you need to understand that part of keeping a job you like includes managing your coworkers. Maybe for you that really is unacceptable, but other introverts, myself included, have accepted it as the cost of doing business.

I have myself occasionally had coworkers or other call me rude or condescending, and I’ve never really found a way out from under that when it’s happened. What works better is setting a good first impression, working extra hard the first few weeks to give off an impression of humility, helpfulness, cheerfulness, and kindness. Then later if you do have a bad day, or need to communicate something urgently, or need to correct someone’s mistake, they’ll see that as the exception rather than just “oh that’s how she is”.

I don’t hate it. I think it’s one of the better taxes.

People hate it because it feels like a bait-and-switch, the difference between salary and take-home pay. They also hate it because it comes with paperwork.

Windows 10 is no longer receiving security updates

Not all machines that ran W10 are capable of running W11

W11 is full of AI integration, always-on data collection, and other no-sell bloatware

Linux is easier to use than ever and free

Jumping on to also recommend Chirp, the Chicago Independent Radio Project. Live volunteer DJs, no ads.

Fair bit of difference between a map app and a navigation app. I’ll use a tool to find out where I’m going but I don’t need one to tell me how to get there.

I live in Chicago, which uses a grid system. Apps are unnecessary for in-town trips.

Piefed has fields for it, on lemmy I just put them in my profile textbox.

yisss I was also jamming on the C64, a hand-me-down from a cousin

Eventually I had read all the books I was interested in at the local library, and the second nearest library, and the downtown library, and I was riding eight miles each way to get to the far side of town. As long as I was back by dinnertime!

We read Ripley’s Believe It or Not and the Guinness Book of World Records instead of Wikipedia. Urban legends were rampant. Everyone lived in constant fear of “the gum disease gingivitis”.

90s kid introvert here.

I would hop on my bike of a Saturday morning, explore the town for an hour, hit the library, come home a few hours later with as many books as I could fit in my backpack.

I’d stay up late learning to code from paperback manuals, save my games to floppies and swap them with friends at school or make my brothers play them.

I ran a year-long pen-and-paper fantasy wargame with my friends from the Scouts, I’d spend an hour every week tabulating the results of everyone’s orders and updating the map.

No, most people wouldn’t recognize their own self-interest if it stopped them on the street. Neither are people all that great at identifying morally correct actions on the fly.

This is why formulating ethics into easy-to-remember precepts is a time-honored tradition. Most people are too lazy or inexperienced to do their own ethics work.

That’s the neat part, you don’t… have to choose. You can be on both! A set of linked alts is a very responsible way to use the fediverse; that way if an instance has downtime you have continuous identity.

What do you mean by “feigned happiness”? Cheerfulness?

Because I know unpleasant people that are happy that way, and depressed people who are very cheerful. Happiness is something you have, cheerfulness is something you do.

Though in my experience, being cheerful tends to help other people feel better and helping others makes me happy.

IIRC that is a synonym already; and Factor » Product isn’t a pun, just the what the words literally mean.

The challenge makes it all the sweeter a victory.